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Two years ago, my husband came to me and told me he had been having an affair for a year and a half. I was completely blindsided and numb with shock.  

No, our marriage hadn't been perfect, but is anyone's?  He was begging forgiveness, and wanted to work on the marriage. Of course, being a stay at home mother and totally unable to see my life any other way, I agreed. "Let's work it out.  We can get past this.  I can change.  I'll be better," I said.

Where could I turn at that point for support?  To my happily married friends?  Everyone had a normal marriage except for me!  I was ashamed and embarrassed.  I ran to marriage counseling and Victoria's Secret.  I was funnier, sexier, skinnier.

Well, I am in the final stages of divorce now, and my husband and this woman live around the corner from me.  The pain is unbearable as is the humiliation.  But, along this journey I have met SO MANY WOMEN who have been through it or are going through it or whom will be going through it soon enough.

So I wanted to for this group as a forum for all of us who's marriage have ended because infidelity; a place for us to discuss, share and support each other through it all.

Click the following to join the group, Infidelity Survivors
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  • Comment Link Guest Thursday, 21 March 2013 19:20 posted by Guest

    I met my husband when I was 14, and I never dated another guy. When we got engaged at 21 he called off our wedding. Finding out there was another woman. I listened to friends and family and really thought he would change. So we got back together and I got pregnant. We got married a few months later, all the while he was still cheating on me. Scared and now alone with a baby I stayed. We were able to move past things and some really good years. I felt that we had our struggle and could now say we are stronger from it. Now 20 years later he still is cheating on me. Those woman out there who feel it in their gut their husband or boyfriend are cheating... You most likely are right he is, your gut and your heart just know. Now a stay at home mom with no education to find a job no family to run home to. I find myself in a dark place. I was completely blindsided by this one. We seemed so happy, us as a couple had made dreams. All the while having fun with just each other. I know the right thing to do is to walk away. But it's scary and well I'm still in shock. Any advice at this point that doesn't include try to work it out?

  • Comment Link  will the pain ever stop? Sunday, 02 September 2012 08:02 posted by will the pain ever stop?

    too good to be true: i have been engaged and living with a man for almost ten years.. he is 7 years younger. i have 3kids and together we have bben rasiing them.. they look at him as if he is their dad. Did every dad thing. we havent fought.. he is my bf , cant sleep unless my head is on his chest. well the kis started telling me he was going out while i was at wrk. (11pm to 7am at a nursing home) i also goto school during day.. so he has been doing more so i toook off 5wks frm school and everything came outhe has been seeing this girl while i wrk he cheatedon me 4 years ago with one of my closest friends and another girl when he wrked out of town, i feel like someone punched me in the chest.. im so hurt, upset, i ws even married before and this relationship was so much stronger and im compltely inlove.. i cant imagine him with someone else let alone like he has been. my xhusbnad cheated too once and it was over and my fiance promised and i said please dnt cheat just go.. i dont know what to do. we were to get married later this yr. after being together every day for 10 years and two months.. and im already replaced by a younger girl. im 37 he is 30. Anyone have any suggestions how can get over im and sleep and eat and not think about him with her and even my former friends