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• Comment Link Saturday, 08 May 2010 14:23 posted by Rockmama

  And they really don't know!: My STBX would lose his erection nearly every time we changed positions. I dealt with that for 9 YEARS. I'm so afraid I will be such a rabbit when all this is over. Sitting there, having to do the same things over and over so he could "keep it up" was so frustrating! He saw a doctor and the doctor told him something is happening in his mind when he is "in the act." He never cared enough to figure it out. Glad it's almost over. Sex is such a huge part of a relationship.
• Comment Link Sunday, 07 March 2010 19:47 posted by Guest

  I couldn't agree more....: This is the one thing I have struggled with since being divorced 6 years ago. I am 36 and have a very healthy sexual appetite, it seems that after I hit 30 something inside of just like turned and and hasnt turned off since. Lucky for me, I became divorced soon after and sex was not one of the reasons it didn't work. We actually were very in tune to each other when it came to this. So now moving forward with the boyfriends I have had or dated, I just want to say that sex has been a huge trouble spot for me. I do find men that are my age or older that have no idea what to do in the bedroom and it is so frustrating to. I have a frame of mind that I am not here to teach a grown man how to perform or satisfy a woman, they should be past that already and if anything showing me new things. I find that they younger men are better and are so willing to please me however on an emotional or serious level the relationship wont go anywhere. I am stuck with finding the perfect balance as of yet and hopefully soon I will get the so call happy medium!!
• Comment Link Monday, 01 March 2010 13:46 posted by Guest

  Amen...... I loved this: Amen...... I loved this article. My STBX is a two stroke wonder. I really tried to explain on numerous occasions to advise him that I needed more interaction from him that the standard quickie. I will leave that to his now married girlfriend who left her husband for cheating. Ahhhh the irony.
• Comment Link Sunday, 28 February 2010 21:33 posted by Guest

  Some men never get it or just don't care.: I am married to a man who still thinks this is the way a woman wants it. We are going down the road of divorce. I have bluntly told him what I want in the bedroom and he corrects his performance. Unfortunately, he goes back to his technique after a few times in the bedroom. Prior to marriage, he did try harder to please me and seemed to get better with time. Almost immediately after marriage he began doing things his way only. When I approached the topic then he didn't want to be intimate at all. I went through a lot of self doubt at the time. I began thinking something was wrong with me. It was a difficult time in our marriage. I thought we had things worked out. I was wrong. Our marriage has failed due to multiple reasons, but this was a huge issue. The time came when sex was either his way or no way at all. I was on an emotional roller-coaster and feeling sexually isolated. His way was gratifying for him and emotionally wrecking havoc on me. I directly approached this with him and suggested reading material and websites. I poured my heart out to him and nothing changed. I offered a compromise so we could be equally satisfied, but I ended up doing all the compromising. I know I am an attractive woman and I take care of myself quite well. I have learned a valuable lesson for the future. I realize some men never get it or just don't care. These are the men to avoid, its not worth your time. I know it is possible to find a man who cares. I agree there are things you shouldn't have to tell a full grown man. If you have to tell the man, than run, run away as fast as you can. He just may be my ex-husband.