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My husband posted some pictures on his website from a weekend outing he went on with some work friends. It's uncanny how although the ratio of men versus women in his group is something like 20:1, with men greatly outnumbering the women, my husband still manages to wind up in a situation where the only female of the group just so happens to be leaning right behind him.

There he is, big cheese grin, and there she is, leaning in as though the two of them have been best friends since college or something.

So what? So my husband has a group picture of him in a big group of people and there just so happens to be a woman chumming up to him. Okay, no problem. It's not like I would even know if anything was going on with him and this woman, or any other woman for that matter, because he's countries away and our communication is limited to a few minutes on the phone every day and maybe an IM conversation at night. I try to give him the benefit of the doubt, and if anything devious is going on my guess is that it would be more along the lines of him positioning the two of them closely like that in an attempt to rile me into jealously.

Never mind that my neighbor came up to me the other day and said, "What's up with those pictures he posted? Who was that girl who was next to him in all of them?" I just shrugged and told her that if something was going on there was no way for me to know, so why freak out?

She said, "What happens in darkness will come to light." Good point.

It's a weird position I'm in. I'm married, but my husband doesn't live with me. I'm not quite a single parent, but I'm as close as you can get while still being married. All it takes is a few online pictures of my husband thousands of miles away with some woman I don't know to remind me just how weird a position I am in.

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  • Comment Link Guest Monday, 26 November 2012 02:29 posted by Guest

    You poor thing! I feel for: You poor thing! I feel for you. My husband left when my kids were 20mts old & 23 days old. I had a hunch he'd been cheating and just tonight found photos on our hard drive to prove it. Very upsetting.

  • Comment Link Guest Wednesday, 27 July 2011 13:09 posted by Guest

    my husband does not like me anymore: my husband is in love with another woman and he is living with her as well.

  • Comment Link Guest Monday, 16 November 2009 09:40 posted by Guest

    What happened to Megan?: Wondering why Megan Thomas hasn't posted anything in 5 months.

  • Comment Link Guest Sunday, 07 June 2009 23:05 posted by Guest

    I'm sorry, but in my case, my: I'm sorry, but in my case, my husband traveled for 10 years. I recently found pictures of his female "friend" on his cell phone. According to him the picture of her chest (fully clothed) was just for fun. Until I found that he that the chest shot was linked to her phone number (so every time she called that image would pop up...and she called him often, I later found out) and the same image was also downloaded from his cell via the internet to his computer...and with that image, I also found the XXX pictures she sent him six years previously.

  • Comment Link Guest Saturday, 06 June 2009 16:29 posted by Guest

    interesting post: Interesting post Megan! Even though you are married, you are truly a single parent right now. You have all the work and stress of any single mom, married or not. And you don't have the relief that many single moms who share custody get on a regular basis. No weekends or 1/2 weeks to yourself to rest and replenish while the kiddos are with the other parent.

    I've read your posts from the beginning, so the question I wondered about in reading this one is: do you consider your marriage differently looking at those pics. Is there a sense of relief that you could both possible move on, or does seeing these photos and thinking he may be with someone else make you want him and your marriage under one roof more than you did back when you could not wait for him to leave?