Let me just get this out of the way right off the bat: I watch too much reality TV. My only defense is that I work late into the evening and some nights the only way to stay awake is to switch on the television and have the noise of mindless shows going on in the background. VH1's Tough Love caught my eye. It's a show where a professional matchmaker counsels and trains women who have not had much luck in the love category.
In the episode I watched, a woman in her late thirties goes on a date with another man similar in age. He grills her with questions until she starts crying because he can't believe she has never been married. He talks about how odd it is that a woman her age has never tied the knot and argues that since she isn't divorced there must be something wrong with her.
Wait, now it's the single people who are undesirable once they hit a certain age?
When I was in my early twenties I thought that there was no way I would ever want to date anyone who had already been married.
Now I'm in my mid-thirties. Almost everyone within my social circle who is either married or divorced. I know very few people who are my age who have never been married. I didn't realize until I watched that episode that somewhere along the line there was a shift in thinking.
Back in my early twenties I wouldn't date anyone who had ever been married, but I'm pretty sure that if I were to rejoin the dating pool nowadays I would be looking for someone who is divorced instead of seeking out men who have never been married.
It's not like I would be looking specifically for a man with baggage, but I think I would have a hard time understanding how someone could get to my age and have not walked down the aisle at least once.
Then again, the explanation may be quite simple: maybe they're just smarter than I am.