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Getting divorced has been, in many ways, merely tedious. The paperwork, the emails, the forms, the waiting in line.  
The most time-consuming has been taking my name back, but the intense happiness of reclaiming myself largely mitigates my exacerbation at the amount of work involved in doing so.

The Social Security Office, for example. An intriguing place – from the woman who walked in screaming that they would see her now because she was being evicted in an hour and had no time to wait, to the man who tried to climb over the teller wall, to the woman clobbering the number-dispensing machine to death with her cane. The chairs are plastic and orange and uncomfortable, and the wait is long. But, by the end of the afternoon, I was myself again - according to the institution all other institutions look to.

I waited in line at the DMV for an hour, only to be told that the forms my lawyer sent me were copies, and they did not accept copies. I would have to go to the courthouse, wait in line there, pay for certified papers, and return. Which I did. A week later, after waiting in another hour-long line, my paperwork was accepted, my photograph taken, and I have a new license – the picture grinning in an excessively delighted way.

The university from which I received my master's demanded both paperwork and a formal letter of explanation. Eventually, I was told that the university would “make an exception” in my case, but I would need to pay a $50 fee for a new diploma.  

My phone, insurance, and cable companies all insist I visit their local offices in person with paperwork, ID, and proof of address. I haven’t gotten around to this yet.

It’s astonishing how many institutions I am on record with at this point, and how many phone calls, pieces of paper, and checks it will takes to complete this process. But the joy of signing a credit card receipt, or ordering something online, or showing my ID at the airport goes a long way to making it worthwhile.

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6 comments

  • Comment Link Guest Saturday, 02 June 2012 22:02 posted by Guest

    I wasn't going to change mine: I wasn't going to change mine but things have come to light and I don't want his name anymore. Too many reminders of what I really meant to him all these years. Let someone else have it....I'm taking back the name I was born with.

  • Comment Link Guest Monday, 12 October 2009 14:44 posted by Guest

    Paperwork: At first, I was fine with keeping the old name, but now I hate seeing that reminder on things. I changed most of my accounts, but 4 years later it still appears now and then. There should be an easier way to get those changes made. If you want your car tag changed over, you have to get the title changed first. Who has time for all that jazz ? :P

  • Comment Link Guest Friday, 15 May 2009 05:21 posted by Guest

    Being divorced could be a: Being divorced could be a nightmare or a sweetdream. Especialy for girls there are many ill effects of taking divorce. Changing name is very common, i think the women who got divorced should come back to her maiden name, as its reveal back her own identity.

  • Comment Link Guest Sunday, 22 February 2009 12:51 posted by Guest

    Taking Back My Name: I plan to keep the married name. I have used it longer than I used the maiden name.

  • Comment Link Karen Crye Saturday, 21 February 2009 11:48 posted by Karen Crye

    So true: It has been about 2 and a half years for me and I am still finding things I need to change my name on. I still have one utility I keep meaning to fax the information to and one other that I need to fax my information. Both require proof, but since it is being faxed I don't have to worry about using a copy at least. Since I realized these last two I keep forgetting to take the paperwork to work with me where i can fax it for free. I recently bought a new all in one printer for home that has a fax. As soon as I get that set up I won't have to fax from work. Just the other day I realized that my house (I bought him out) is still under my old name with the county. I need to ind out what they need to change that.

  • Comment Link Guest Saturday, 21 February 2009 10:33 posted by Guest

    I Agree!: However, why is it that guys get the easy way out in that they do not have to change their name on anything? Ugh! They never have to deal with or think about these things. Not surprising . . .