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Maybe it's been a while since you slept with anyone but your ex. If you're thinking about sleeping with a new man, watch the video above to hear Debbie's candid discussion with First Wives World's resident sexpert Dr. Victoria Zdrok on the things you need to know before getting back in the sack post-divorce.

 

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  • Comment Link Guest Sunday, 13 January 2013 09:54 posted by Guest

    Disrespect goes two ways: A woman's right to have limited sex is no more than equal to a man's right to have an enjoyable and varied sex life. Threats of complaints and drama do not show men love and mutual respect.

  • Comment Link Guest Monday, 27 August 2012 12:51 posted by Guest

    Going through a divorce: Sorry, you had to go through all that with this man/dog. It shows no respect on his part at all to be so selfish. I know more than a few women are willing to do this today as compared with yesterday but many women don't like it, period!! I think for some of the guys that do like it sooo very much today, that they are hiding the FACT that they are gay!!! If your man turns you around regularly so as not to have to look at you AND wants that type of intimacy all the time well then, they may as well be with a MAN!

  • Comment Link Guest Monday, 25 June 2012 15:20 posted by Guest

    Amazing novel idea: You could try...actually trying.

    Sure you didn't necessarily agree before marriage. I doubt he agreed to work and bring in an income nor to be home most of the time, nor to go places with you.

    I do however suspect you would leave if he didn't keep up with his implied promises. You say "no" and then also say "and you can't go elsewhere to get it".

    If he said "eat only what I make for you - and it's going to be oatmeal. Forever." you'd be walking.

    Needs are needs. Not met - the other will walk.

  • Comment Link Guest Thursday, 21 June 2012 10:54 posted by Guest

    Agree with you: My husband is my first husband and first man, but I am his second wife, his first wife passed away in his marriage.
    I have been together for about 5 years, he has brought up this subject from time to time. A few years ago, I actually yielded once, for then I was in a very bad position: come from oversea, no family, no friends, no job, no money, no shelter. But I told him, next time, he would have to do that over my dead body. Still, he brings up every time, no matter how I hate it.
    Last night, he brought it up again. And even trying to bring my breast milk back, after I have stopped breastfeeding for almost 4 years., just so he can have a sip sometimes. I feel he doesn't treat me the way he would have treated a woman from here. Am I wrong? Would a native woman from here put up with his request? After I have waited on him and the two step kids for years, he is trying to drive me away?
    I am so very fed up with him. Maybe I will have to leave him sooner or later, though I don't know how I can make it on my own and keep my 4 year old son.

  • Comment Link Guest Sunday, 26 February 2012 10:10 posted by Guest

    Remember as young girls we: Remember as young girls we were told that we should never be forced into doing anything sexual out of peer pressure? Same for us grown/single/married/divorced women. Its okay to decline any type of sex that doesnt make us comfortable. Our partners need to respect us and our choices. Threats to leave us, to replace us, to divorce us, etc do not show us love and mutual respect.

  • Comment Link Guest Thursday, 15 September 2011 13:29 posted by Guest

    Sorry: I don't think a marriage would break up over sex. If it does then those two people are just not right for each other. A marriage is about way more than sex. Yes, I know sex is important in a marriage but it should never be the most important thing. My ex-husband was all about sex. It made me feel like that was all I was good for. Sex should never be the most important thing. That's just my opinion. I did everything my husband wanted sexually and we're still divorcing. Sex didn't keep us together nor break us up.

  • Comment Link Guest Monday, 04 July 2011 14:00 posted by Guest

    I also wonder if sex was what: I also wonder if sex was what ruined my marriage. I got put on bedrest with my last pregnancy and my husband and I haven't had sex since. He wanted more oral sex then, but I was so sick with the pregnancy I didn't want to much. He started an emotional affair with a 22 year old girl who looks just like I used to shortly after. He now wants a divorce even though we have a newborn baby and I'll be able to have sex again soon. Sex was always really good for us and a way to connect deeply. However, I think a marriage should be able to withstand a short period of time without sex. I think because of the young girl becoming involved at a time when I am fat and not as attractive as her, I will always wonder if the bedrest did our marriage in.