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Do you constantly make derogatory remarks about yourself?I do. Honestly most of the women I know who have been in narcissistic relationships have a terrible habit of tearing themselves down. It’s like now that we are free of the narcissist we feel the need to be our own abusers.
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Wednesday, 12 November 2014 18:25
Guilt and shame are similar enough that they’re often mistaken for one another, but they’re not at all alike. Remember the old Sesame Street jingle, one of these things is not like the other, one of these things is not the same…If you’re divorced, then you are more than likely dealing with guilt. If you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist or one that was abusive, you're probably carrying around a lot of shame, which is totally different. 
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Wednesday, 05 November 2014 22:18
It’s a fact. When you get a divorce, you will go through the seven stages of grief just as if someone had died. In reality, someone has.When you get married you “become one” with your spouse. For all intents and purposes you’ve created a third entity, a personality that is unique to you. When you divorce, you are effectively killing off that personality. No matter how you explain what happens, no matter how much you want a divorce – the loss of that entity is painful and traumatic.Don’t kid yourself. You are going to grieve.
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Monday, 27 October 2014 18:45
I don’t know if you’ve noticed but I am juggling quite a few issues and I sure would like it if You’d snap Your fingers, wiggle Your nose, or whatever You need to do to smooth things out.
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Friday, 17 October 2014 21:02
A bad marriage can become a battleground.  Small little arguments that at one time you would have brushed aside or quickly gotten over escalate, become blown up to absurd-proportions, and both draw in previous grievances while laying the ground for future fights.  A question of whose turn it was to clean the cat box can become about the time he thought you were flirting with your co-worker, and it leaves you both breathing in poisonous air.  In short, you've become bitter enemies. 
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Thursday, 19 December 2013 22:00
Even though I know my divorce was mostly for the best, there have been many days and nights when I deeply miss my ex. It has been a while now since he moved out, and I still miss our evenings together watching movies, dinners by the fire, and the morning conversations we used to have over coffee - he in his studio painting, and me curled up on the sofa, planning the day. While I do miss him specifically, I also miss simply having someone close. Divorce can be very lonely, especially if you don't have children at home, or even a pet (or maybe even if you do). In the summer months, I kept myself busy and out of the house as much as possible, but as the temperature plummets I find myself tucked inside most days and nights, the dreary New York winter isolating me more and more. Sometimes I imagine myself frozen inside a house of ice, waiting for the spring to come thaw out my world. Winter is definitely the hardest season of divorce, and with the holidays here, being alone feels especially hard.
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Tuesday, 10 December 2013 16:46
When I turned thirty, people were constantly telling me that I was entering the best decade of life. Apparently, studies suggest that women are happiest in their thirties, and there are several reasons for this. The financial struggles you went through in your twenties are usually mostly over, you still look young, and your sex drive is peaking. If you have children, they are still too young to be troublesome teens. 
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Wednesday, 04 December 2013 22:56
A week after my divorce, I found that I could slowly begin eating again. I would go to the local coffee shop and bring home a salad, or visit the frozen foods section of the grocery store for an organic pizza, which seemed like a cheap, convenient,  and relatively  healthy option. I limited my food choices to items I could easily trash, without dirtying a dish. I hated the idea of leftovers, because leftovers meant another addition to my already full, yet completely useless refrigerator. Useless because, instead of having recognizable food inside, my refrigerator was a vast, mysterious receptacle for unwanted, forgotten, probably spoiled and inedible items. There were expired containers of mayonnnaise, bottles of nearly empty (but not quite) soy sauce, and tupperware filled with god only knows what. I didn't want to deal with them, even though the only logical thing to do was clean out the refrigerator so that I could start anew. After many months, my refrigerator started to seem like the giant, humming, appliance equivalent of my failed marriage. Its contents were not simply old mustard jars and half-eaten slices of pizza; they were festering wounds. The hot sauce became the time he said my friends were losers; the relish screamed I never accepted your family. Clearly the fridge, and my life, needed an overhaul.
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Tuesday, 03 December 2013 21:34
Did you keep your engagement and wedding ring after your divorce or did you sell it? I pawned mine when I was broke and then forgot to get it out of the pawn shop.  For some reason I got rid of all the expensive jewelry my ex gave me, but kept some of the trinkets because I guess they didn’t have the same  symbolism as a wedding or engagement ring.
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Friday, 29 November 2013 21:45