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Dealing with divorce is a tough experience in the best of circumstances but is often made worse by friends, family, and co-workers who feel the need to judge the situation, give advice, and generally muddy the already brackish water of the divorce process. At a time when you are at your most vulnerable and questioning your own motives the last thing you need are other people’s opinions.
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Friday, 20 September 2013 15:09
There are approximately 610,000,000 results for a Google search on “How to make a man fall in love with you”. The covers of some women’s magazines are peppered with catchy titles for articles that give you step-by-step instructions on how to lure a man into your trap.Cosmopolitan is notorious for this. The magazine for young, single women founded by Helen Gurley Brown has built its success by helping women attract men using feminine wiles. Helen wrote Sex and the Single Girl in 1962 and it was the inspiration for Sex and the City. The TV show was about female friendship, but it was also about attracting a man and keeping him. 
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Wednesday, 18 September 2013 21:17
There is this really annoying thing my Pilates instructor always says to us in class. She always says it, of course, when she has me and my fellow grimacing Pilates enthusiasts locked into some kind of painful repetitive move, like deep leg lunges with weights. As we near the tenth repetition, she'll say, a little too enthusiastically, “Embrace the pain! Own it. Get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable!” I cringe. It really irritates me. Also, her voice is a bit high-pitched. But really, why would I want to embrace pain? It's human instinct, quite justly, to avoid pain in all of its many forms. Physical pain ranks very high on the avoidance list for all creatures, so it's kind of silly to ask someone to take it on willingly. In fact, it's kind of odd that humans go to gyms at all, where we strain to lift heavy objects over our heads or huff and puff on a moving machine that's going nowhere. I've never seen a squirrel or even a chimpanzee attempting to get buff biceps. No, embracing pain to look fit is definitely a human invention. But there is another kind of torture humans readily take on. Why do we embrace the pain of our doomed relationships? Why do we fight for them instead of walking away?
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Friday, 13 September 2013 17:55
I spent 29 years and 7 months creating our perfect family. I was determined from the very beginning that my marriage would not be the war zone that my parents’ marriage had been, it wouldn’t be the passionless relationship I saw in so many mid-life couple, and it wouldn’t be mediocre. No, it would be halcyon days of picnics and sunshine, long nights of making love, and practically perfect parenting as we created a family around a set of values that Mr. and Mrs. Cleaver would have been quite comfortable with.
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Thursday, 12 September 2013 08:37
One of the biggest complaints my ex-husband had against me was that I never showed any kind of physical affection during our marriage. Looking back on it, I know now that he was right. Sex was a problem, but he was referring to more than that. I never rushed into his arms spontaneously, never initiated any type of cuddling, and only sometimes offered a hug. And it wasn't only with him: everyone I've had a relationship with has had the same complaint. So it was with great intrigue that I read an article I came across in the Huffington Post about a gene that can cause a certain percentage of females to fail to bond with others, and to have a hard time committing. It was aptly dubbed “the divorce gene.”
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Thursday, 05 September 2013 03:41
Last weekend, I won a fish at the county fair. It wasn't a big deal -  it was the kind of prize you win from aiming, quite badly actually, a ping pong ball toward a cup full of water. I didn't even try to win. Knowing how bad may aim normally is, I threw the tiny plastic ball with no expectations. Somehow, by whatever forces of gravity and chance, the ball landed inside a cup instead of bouncing off its side, and I was given a ticket that read: 1 free fish.
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Friday, 30 August 2013 16:46
In "Walden; or, Life in the Woods", Henry David Thoreau wrote, “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” A few sentences later, he wrote, “A stereotyped but unconscious despair is concealed even under what are called the games and amusements of mankind.” If I had been more introspective during the earlier years of my life, I would have realized those words (written in 1854) were meant for me. Instead, I put my focus on my labors, as Thoreau witnessed his neighbors do. I spent my time watching others lead lives of quiet desperation and I ignored my own happiness. I let things slide by that you can never get back and I allowed other things to destroy parts of my soul. Just as you have done.
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Thursday, 29 August 2013 16:50
Last week, I had a terrible fight with my ex-husband. It didn't start out as a fight. In fact, it started as an amicable conversation about new tires for our shared car. We agreed to take a trip together that weekend and take care of it, and on the ride there we discussed ordinary things, like what each of us was doing at work, our new apartments, my sister's recent graduation. But then, something went awry. He asked me a question about someone I was dating, and the conversation veered into dangerous territory. Emotions bubbled to the surface, and an off-hand comment he made about my potential romantic interest turned into a heated argument about the past. I realized mid-way through that we were having the same fight we had been having for years. And if it had never been resolved before, it certainly wasn't going to be resolved that day, either.
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Tuesday, 20 August 2013 15:02
One of the most valuable lessons my divorce has taught me is to depend on no one but myself. It isn't that I was a helpless female from a Disney drama before my divorce. I have always had life skills, and I am an educated woman with common sense. It's more that I had become accustomed to a life that made me feel secure. My husband was someone I loved, but he was also much more than that - he was the person who was always there, no matter what. If a friend had news, I would go home and share it with him. In a lightning storm, I could always reach out for his hand. When the car broke down, he would know what to do. He was a part of me, and I would like to think that I was a part of him, at one time. When we parted, I felt like the most important part had been stolen from me. I was alone, and I was broken, and no one could ever help put me back together again.
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Wednesday, 14 August 2013 18:26
Many of us have suffered through awful marriages, bitter divorces, and are now staring ahead at the future.  That future involves all sorts of unknowns - financial, emotional, romantic, just to name a few.  Divorce can be the end of one ...
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Tuesday, 13 August 2013 18:26