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I never thought I would be divorced at thirty-five. I guess none of us do. No one ever walks down the aisle as a young bride with just an eight year plan. 
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Wednesday, 09 October 2013 16:53
Fall is in the air. Most of the leaves on the trees that line my walking trail have already changed from green to gold and orange. Many of them have fallen from the trees, and all the shops on Main Street have outfitted their windows with pumpkins and Halloween décor. The clothing boutique a few doors down recently closed its doors, and an art gallery has already begun the process of moving in. My weekly vegetable delivery is filled with squashes and potatoes instead of lettuces and tomatoes, and the sun is disappearing into darkness earlier and earlier. In short, things are changing. Whether we like it or not, another Autumn has arrived, and nature is preparing itself for winter. The transformation doesn't happen overnight, but it is a steady process that is life-affirming in its power. When a transformation is happening, whether it's the season turning over a new leaf or the change happening in our lives, there is no stopping it.
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Tuesday, 08 October 2013 15:38
“Theres nothing like a first kiss.” It's true. And when Drew Barrymore speaks that line in the movie 50 First Dates, she reminds us all how great it feels to fall in love for the first time. If you've seen the movie, you may recall that her character is suffering from amnesia and the short term memory loss it causes her means that every day of her life is a clean slate. She has absolutely no memory of the day before, nor does she realize she is living the same day over and over again, repeating the same things. 
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Tuesday, 01 October 2013 19:53
“I stood in Venice, on the Bridge of Sighs: A palace and a prison on each hand.” Lord Byron My son, Adrian and his true love, Stephanie just came back from Italy. One of their photographs was of the Bridge of Sighs, or the Ponte dei ...
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Friday, 27 September 2013 16:25
I remember with vivid clarity a single moment of my wedding day. In this moment, I am walking down the aisle and am aware that all eyes are on me. My left arm is uncomfortably positioned around my step-father's elbow as he escorts me, and the dress I am wearing slightly pinches my back. An organ is playing somewhere, but it sounds far away, and I have no recollection of what song announced my approach to the altar. I don't remember my bouquet or what the church looked like, or even who made up the members of the wedding party or where they stood that day. I don't recall my husband's tuxedo  or if he seemed nervous when he took my hand. What I do remember, quite clearly, are his eyes. They are deep blue and earnest, and in that moment I saw that he loved me in the purest, most extraordinary way. I hoped my eyes reflected that same love, which is the kind of love I meant when I chose the quote that went on our wedding invitations.
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Thursday, 26 September 2013 17:28
Dealing with divorce is a tough experience in the best of circumstances but is often made worse by friends, family, and co-workers who feel the need to judge the situation, give advice, and generally muddy the already brackish water of the divorce process. At a time when you are at your most vulnerable and questioning your own motives the last thing you need are other people’s opinions.
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Friday, 20 September 2013 15:09
There are approximately 610,000,000 results for a Google search on “How to make a man fall in love with you”. The covers of some women’s magazines are peppered with catchy titles for articles that give you step-by-step instructions on how to lure a man into your trap.Cosmopolitan is notorious for this. The magazine for young, single women founded by Helen Gurley Brown has built its success by helping women attract men using feminine wiles. Helen wrote Sex and the Single Girl in 1962 and it was the inspiration for Sex and the City. The TV show was about female friendship, but it was also about attracting a man and keeping him. 
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Wednesday, 18 September 2013 21:17
There is this really annoying thing my Pilates instructor always says to us in class. She always says it, of course, when she has me and my fellow grimacing Pilates enthusiasts locked into some kind of painful repetitive move, like deep leg lunges with weights. As we near the tenth repetition, she'll say, a little too enthusiastically, “Embrace the pain! Own it. Get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable!” I cringe. It really irritates me. Also, her voice is a bit high-pitched. But really, why would I want to embrace pain? It's human instinct, quite justly, to avoid pain in all of its many forms. Physical pain ranks very high on the avoidance list for all creatures, so it's kind of silly to ask someone to take it on willingly. In fact, it's kind of odd that humans go to gyms at all, where we strain to lift heavy objects over our heads or huff and puff on a moving machine that's going nowhere. I've never seen a squirrel or even a chimpanzee attempting to get buff biceps. No, embracing pain to look fit is definitely a human invention. But there is another kind of torture humans readily take on. Why do we embrace the pain of our doomed relationships? Why do we fight for them instead of walking away?
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Friday, 13 September 2013 17:55
I spent 29 years and 7 months creating our perfect family. I was determined from the very beginning that my marriage would not be the war zone that my parents’ marriage had been, it wouldn’t be the passionless relationship I saw in so many mid-life couple, and it wouldn’t be mediocre. No, it would be halcyon days of picnics and sunshine, long nights of making love, and practically perfect parenting as we created a family around a set of values that Mr. and Mrs. Cleaver would have been quite comfortable with.
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Thursday, 12 September 2013 08:37
One of the biggest complaints my ex-husband had against me was that I never showed any kind of physical affection during our marriage. Looking back on it, I know now that he was right. Sex was a problem, but he was referring to more than that. I never rushed into his arms spontaneously, never initiated any type of cuddling, and only sometimes offered a hug. And it wasn't only with him: everyone I've had a relationship with has had the same complaint. So it was with great intrigue that I read an article I came across in the Huffington Post about a gene that can cause a certain percentage of females to fail to bond with others, and to have a hard time committing. It was aptly dubbed “the divorce gene.”
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Thursday, 05 September 2013 03:41