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The urge to merge. It's an old cliché about a woman's need to bond intensely with her partner, and is usually used in reference to lesbian relationships. It is the reason why female couples jump into relationships with each other, and is exactly where the whole U-Haul joke comes from. (What does a lesbian bring on a second date? A U-Haul. Ha ha.) While the urge to merge may have an urban dictionary definition rooted in lesbian culture, the phenomena is actually backed by science, and pertains to all women, regardless of sexual orientation. It is the female inclination to form a committed, lasting, monogamous relationship with someone. This desire to connect is a part of our chemical makeup, and is apparently triggered by a hormone called Oxytocin. 
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Tuesday, 29 October 2013 18:03
I have what some would call an addictive personality. I approach life with an all-or-nothing mentality, which means that instead of having a few cookies, I eat the whole bag in one sitting and then avoid them completely for months. I don't stop at one or two glasses of wine, and I will stay up all night to finish a book or watch an entire television series. When it comes to relationships, I am either so passionate about someone that I need to see them every day, or not at all. I know that I can be intense. Sometimes this quality can be charming, sometimes not. After my divorce, I found myself going overboard with everything.
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Wednesday, 23 October 2013 16:49
Everyone has his or her own timing for when dating is appropriate after a divorce. Some people grieve for years before they're ready to move on, and others were involved with someone else before the split even happened. But for most of us, dating after going through a divorce may be intimidating and a little bit scary, but a part of us still wants to reach out again at some point in time. At the same time, no one wants to have their hearts broken all over again, or even worse, subject themselves to all the possible negative qualities a new love interest might have. Getting to know someone and trust someone again takes a lot of work, and a lot of patience. I am not the best at it, but I am learning how to accept and trust people again without getting involved with the wrong match.
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Friday, 18 October 2013 16:24
Divorce is the hangover. The super bad kind where you wake up and wonder why you did that and vow never to do it again. We have to go through emotional withdrawal and that makes for a different kind of crazy. Some of us get depressed, we act out or go on a binge – too much alcohol, drugs or sex with random people.
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Wednesday, 16 October 2013 16:47
I read my horoscope everyday to see if this is that special day when the stars have aligned and I am going to find true love. Somehow, the celestial bodies are always in disagreement. I check to see what signs are compatible with Pisces ...
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Thursday, 10 October 2013 17:50
I never thought I would be divorced at thirty-five. I guess none of us do. No one ever walks down the aisle as a young bride with just an eight year plan. 
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Wednesday, 09 October 2013 16:53
Fall is in the air. Most of the leaves on the trees that line my walking trail have already changed from green to gold and orange. Many of them have fallen from the trees, and all the shops on Main Street have outfitted their windows with pumpkins and Halloween décor. The clothing boutique a few doors down recently closed its doors, and an art gallery has already begun the process of moving in. My weekly vegetable delivery is filled with squashes and potatoes instead of lettuces and tomatoes, and the sun is disappearing into darkness earlier and earlier. In short, things are changing. Whether we like it or not, another Autumn has arrived, and nature is preparing itself for winter. The transformation doesn't happen overnight, but it is a steady process that is life-affirming in its power. When a transformation is happening, whether it's the season turning over a new leaf or the change happening in our lives, there is no stopping it.
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Tuesday, 08 October 2013 15:38
“Theres nothing like a first kiss.” It's true. And when Drew Barrymore speaks that line in the movie 50 First Dates, she reminds us all how great it feels to fall in love for the first time. If you've seen the movie, you may recall that her character is suffering from amnesia and the short term memory loss it causes her means that every day of her life is a clean slate. She has absolutely no memory of the day before, nor does she realize she is living the same day over and over again, repeating the same things. 
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Tuesday, 01 October 2013 19:53
“I stood in Venice, on the Bridge of Sighs: A palace and a prison on each hand.” Lord Byron My son, Adrian and his true love, Stephanie just came back from Italy. One of their photographs was of the Bridge of Sighs, or the Ponte dei ...
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Friday, 27 September 2013 16:25
I remember with vivid clarity a single moment of my wedding day. In this moment, I am walking down the aisle and am aware that all eyes are on me. My left arm is uncomfortably positioned around my step-father's elbow as he escorts me, and the dress I am wearing slightly pinches my back. An organ is playing somewhere, but it sounds far away, and I have no recollection of what song announced my approach to the altar. I don't remember my bouquet or what the church looked like, or even who made up the members of the wedding party or where they stood that day. I don't recall my husband's tuxedo  or if he seemed nervous when he took my hand. What I do remember, quite clearly, are his eyes. They are deep blue and earnest, and in that moment I saw that he loved me in the purest, most extraordinary way. I hoped my eyes reflected that same love, which is the kind of love I meant when I chose the quote that went on our wedding invitations.
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Thursday, 26 September 2013 17:28