There's a great, darkly comedic scene in the 2009 movie “It's Complicated” that I think sums up divorce heartbreak for many of us. Meryl Streep gets into a car with co-star Steve Martin, who is listening to a self-help CD on divorce. After he fumbles in embarrassment to shut off the track, she asks him, amused, if he's recently been divorced. “Yes,” he answers quite candidly. “Two and a half years ago.” She shoots him a knowing look and replies, “Well, look at it this way. In two more years, you'll start to feel normal again.” At least, she points out, that was her experience.Which means, if we do the math, it took her almost five years just to start to feel normal again. Give it another two, and maybe she will actually feel normal...which gives us a total of six and a half years. That's a lot of years of mental turmoil to go through. But then again, aren't our lives mostly made up of turmoil and long periods of feeling not quite normal? What is normal supposed to feel like?