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If you get a random group of divorced men and women together and then bring up child support more than likely everyone is going to get irritable. There is something about child support payments that brings out anger in frustration in people whether they are the supporter or the supported. 
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Monday, 08 December 2014 21:35
When you’re in the divorce process there tends to be the idea that once it is over things will get back to normal. You’ll move on. You’ll put this behind you. You’ll adjust to your new life. So, while you are signing papers and dividing property you keep telling yourself that you are almost there—just one more signature, one more court appearance, or one more email.
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Wednesday, 19 November 2014 18:10
Mid-life always brings a lot of change. Even if you are in a strong, stable marriage you have to deal with hormone changes, changes in your body, and changes in your home life at the very least. If you toss divorce into the mix, you have a recipe for a pretty intense depression.
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Monday, 10 November 2014 21:57
Excuse me while I go on a bit of a rant here. It is a common, way too common, misconception that if you get a divorce you will permanently damage your children. They will be depressed, Woody Allenesque creatures who spend their thirties on a psychiatrist’s couch holding a teddy bear that they stole from Wal-Mart.Or something like that.
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Wednesday, 29 October 2014 19:43
In a divorce, there is no issue more difficult or emotionally painful than deciding on custody.  You can get a new car, assets can be replaced- things are just that: things.  But not when it comes to children.  There is no way to split them up without emotional difficulties.  The problem is that too many divorces present themselves as battlefields, where everything needs to be fought over and "won".  
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Friday, 06 December 2013 21:34
Recently, I saw a Ted x talk online by Ash Beckham. She was talking about her coming out story, and the fact that even though she lived as a closeted lesbian for many years, her closet was no different from anyone else's closet. She said, quite poignantly, that we all have closets, regardless of gender, race, sexual orientation or culture, at some point in our lives we all feel trapped in one. Whether we are faced with telling someone we love we have cancer, or telling them we love them for the first time, we all have experienced those hard conversations.“Because all a closet is, is a hard conversation.” I agree with her, and even though I didn't have children to tell when my ex and I made the decision to divorce, I can empathize. I remember my own parents struggle to come out of their divorce closets and tell me at nine years old that they were going to be living apart. I had already known, of course, as most kids do. Still, it was a hard conversation for all of us. Hearing Ash Beckham speak about the difficulty of carrying around a secret made me realize how my parents must have felt when they finally decided to let me know. They must have felt the pressure weighing on them for months, not wanting to hurt me and fearing my plummet into depression or childhood criminality. And I'm sure they felt the guilt of creating a child who would now be the product of a broken home. But inevitably, no matter my reaction or the consequences to come, we had that very hard conversation. It was scary, and it was sad, but it was finally out in the open. They were getting a divorce.
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Thursday, 14 November 2013 16:14
There are MILFs, the sexy kind, and then there are MILFs, mother-in-law(s) I’d like to forget kind. I have met a couple of people that were really close to their mother-in-law but they are few and far between. Often she sees you as an interloper between her and her darling boy
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Thursday, 17 October 2013 19:37
I honestly don't think there are very many positive aspects to divorce. It's a painful process, and it isn't something you get over quickly, or without an intense struggle. I certainly wouldn't do it again if I had the choice, and in fact, my divorce was so hard I doubt I will ever remarry. The only upside for me, frankly, was the breaking of ties with certain family members – namely, his family.
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Tuesday, 03 September 2013 15:17
There is an old saying that goes, ‘you can choose your friends, but you can’t choose your family.’ If we choose wisely, we are rewarded with life-long friends who will be there for us in both good and bad times, and if the bad times are particularly awful, they will support, encourage, and cheer us up. Some people have found those friends, other have not. But when it comes to family, things are a bit more complicated. Family, by its very nature, is  a foundation of security for most of us. The bond we have with our parents is a special kind of bond that can never be replaced or broken unless in extreme situations. I have always felt the mother-daughter bond is the most powerful, but also the most complex. When I was small child, I told my mother everything. Through my teenage and college years, I drifted away, but I knew she was there for me, and loved me unconditionally. A mother’s love is essential, and priceless. But that doesn’t mean it always comes easily, and it isn’t without its own unique dynamics.
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Tuesday, 30 July 2013 18:55
My ex-husband has always been very active in social media. He has to be, because it is good for the promotion of his career. When we were together,  it didn’t bother me much when Facebook friends of his would make a comment on a picture of the two of us, or that people who weren’t friends of mine would send me a friend request because I was his wife. It did began to annoy me very much when his Facebook fan page spilled over into my private life, with so-called “fans” spamming me with requests. I politely declined them, but never fully escaped from my ex’s online presence encroaching into my own little online world. I didn’t need to do any personal internet marketing, and always have used Facebook simply as a way to stay in touch with friends who had moved far away.  But he used his online presence to generate sales, so he accepted friend requests from everyone, including long lost family members, ex-girlfriends, and his estranged father. Things started to get a little messy. When we divorced a few years later, things got even messier.  
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Friday, 28 June 2013 17:21
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