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Have you ever looked in the mirror and felt horrified by the face looking back at you? Maybe you notice a deep line that wasn't there a week ago, or grey hairs that you swear grew in overnight. On closer inspection, your skin looks dull and your eyes look tired. Then you begin to notice more unattractive things about yourself. The beginning of a double chin. Cellulite. Skin that isn't as firm as it once was. Some of these things are age related, some not. Regardless, they are all things that no one wants to see staring back at them in the mirror. Nora Ephron wrote an entire book about her neck, so needless to say, appearance is important to most people, especially women. We live in a culture that is based on our looks, and it's easy to become a victim of modern beauty standards. I don't know a woman who hasn't been unhappy with some physical trait, at some point in her life. It's hard enough to feel good about yourself and the way you look even if everything is going well in your life. But going through a divorce, especially if it involved infidelity, can really add a final blow to your self-esteem. 
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Friday, 13 December 2013 20:55
I watched a documentary last weekend called Hungry for Change, about the poor state of nutrition in our country. Even though it was a film about food, it was also a look at the human body/mind connection, and how easy it is to fall into a vicious cycle of self-loathing that only makes our struggle worse. In times of stress, like divorce, people often gain weight, and are prone to numerous other health problems. The documentary explores exactly how the body deals with emotional stressors, and offers some solid scientific answers to how we can better take care of ourselves at a time when we need it the most.
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Wednesday, 27 November 2013 02:19
I have always been athletic. I took horseback riding lessons and ballet as a kid, and gymnastics as a teenager. In my twenties I became an avid gym-goer, and now in my thirties I still work out on a regular basis. I also like to swim, hike, and attempt to play tennis, albeit very badly. All of this, I suppose, has made staying fit easier. I don’t have to push myself to go outside, because I already want to. I know this isn’t true for everyone. And even if you are a sporty type of girl, everyone has days where the sofa just feels better than a tennis court or a gym. I am never consistently motivated to wake up in the morning and go for a run, but I always do something, whether it’s yoga at home or a jog around the neighborhood. I do it  because I know that it will make me feel good. I want to look good, yes, but I want to feel even better. So I confess that I am one of those women , however obnoxious it may sound, who exercise a lot. By a lot, I mean five days a week. I did it when I was married,  and I definitely do now that I’m single.
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Wednesday, 03 July 2013 20:39
Months after separating from my husband, I still wasn’t doing much better than the first night I spent alone. The pain persisted, and most nights ended in a storm of tears that could only be quelled by a pill or alcohol-induced sleep. Mornings weren’t much better, though they were manageable if only I could get through the first couple of hours wherein I obsessed over various ways to end my life, and end all this pain. I fared slightly better in the afternoons, but I was unraveling, and on the verge of losing more than just my marriage and my health. I was close to losing my sanity, not to mention my job and any chance of surviving on my own. I missed many days of work, and to make matters worse, I wasn’t just in emotional pain, but a debilitating physical pain as well. 
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Tuesday, 02 July 2013 17:56
When I turned 27, I married my best friend. We had met just a year earlier in art school. He was the artist, and I was the model for his drawing class.  After class, we often talked for hours about anything and everything, and from the day we met, not a single one passed by without each other’s company. We shared a special bond that deepened over the months, until his September proposal swept me up and away from small town college life and into a wedding dress in New York City. I was a happy, if somewhat overwhelmed bride. He was a doting groom. Together, we really did make a perfect pair. We lived a charmed life filled with traveling, and spent several of our married years in Paris. It was in that city that we lost each other.  In Paris, I met Juliette.
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Friday, 21 June 2013 18:32
Divorce is an overwhelming experience. Your body is bombarded with a kind of stress that goes well beyond the surface and into the core of your being. It isn’t as simple as feeling run down, or having dark circles under your eyes from poor sleep. The stress that comes from loss and grief over separating from your partner in life is a kind of stress that takes its toll even as it goes unnoticed. As women, we are used to taking care of others, forgetting that we have to take care of ourselves, too. But during a divorce, it is crucial to take extra care of yourself, beginning with your mind.
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Monday, 17 June 2013 15:05
Two things a lady does not share; age and weight.  Well, I am not into taboo so here goes… 30 and 60kg’s!  Now with that behind us, let’s talk exercise and food!I love both in no moderation at all.  I guess the exercise bit helps me regulate the food bit at least.  I love cooking, baking and entertaining!  Flavours, textures, variety and experimentation in the kitchen is part of the bliss of life for me.  Food is fun, and we really are allowed to enjoy it, that’s what it was made for!  To sit together and feast and savour the delicacies, whiff in the scents and enjoy the experience preferably in company.  Is there anything better?
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Tuesday, 13 November 2012 07:37
Let's talk about weight, shall we? Yeah, yeah, we're all writing and commenting and visiting this wonderfully supportive site, and we're sharing our thoughts, fears, concerns, hopes and dreams. But what about our bodies? What wonderful changes can you expect when you move beyond divorce? Hmmm,&
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Friday, 26 August 2011 08:19
I have noticed that in reading the blogs, many times the words tired, depressed, not sleeping and other words describing our physical health are mentioned.  So, I thought I would share a few thoughts about nutrition, and supplements.I am not a nurse, doctor, or nutritionist. I am and have been&
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Wednesday, 17 August 2011 09:46
I admit it. Some days, my life is a complete mess — and I mean literally.My house is littered with toys. My home-cooked meals are usually warmed-up leftovers. My laundry baskets overflow. The cats are shedding like mad, and the floors need vacuuming. I'd mention the windows, but they're&
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Tuesday, 16 August 2011 08:43
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