Debbie Ford

Creating a New Future

Even in the midst of the most difficult moments of divorce, there exists the potential for letting in the little rays of light that can begin to illuminate a much brighter future. Once you’ve had the experience of being blessed by your divorce, your open wounds will begin to heal and your closed heart will begin to open. Transformation is the natural evolution of finding the gift of a negative experience, seeing the light in the darkness. Once you’ve discovered this valuable lesson, the excitement of life begins to filer in again. Then real magic happens when you begin opening up to new worlds, seeing opportunities you couldn’t see before. In this webisode, we guide you into this new future by helping you create a vision map – a literal representation of the future you want to be in. Once you have completed a vision of your future you then have the power to ask yourself, “Am I making choices in my everyday life that are about bringing about my new future, or are my choices about re-living my past?” Give it a try, and see the difference it makes!

Finding Forgiveness

The pain of separation or divorce is often so intense that it radically alters our ability to see the whole picture. So much good gets lost. So many blessings disappear. So much wisdom goes to waste. Even when we think we are the one who can see clearly, we are often blinded by the righteous positions and resentments that were birthed out of hurt and betrayal. To heal the deep ache in our hearts, we must learn how to forgive ourselves for our imperfections; for certain choices we’ve made, and we also must find the willingness to forgive our exes for having hurt and disappointed us. In this webisode we do just that by guiding you through an exercise to find the blessings in your marriage, no matter how bitter the divorce, and to find forgiveness for yourself and for your ex in order to create the life you have been dreaming of.

Releasing Anger

Anger is at the root of our self-sabotaging behaviors and often it comes wearing many disguises. It’s our anger we’re hiding when we work too much or deprive ourselves of rest, love, success or self-care. Our anger manifests itself in our bodies as fatigue, tension, and disease. Until we give our anger a healthy expression, it will continue to express itself in covert ways. When we direct our anger at our ex-partners - whether in the form of silent judgment or overt hostility - it only feeds our rage and perpetuates the cycle of self-sabotage. In this webisode we explore an exercise that offers a healthy way of releasing anger – writing an angry letter to your spouse, and then creating a ritual to free yourself from it. Try it, you’ll be happy you did.

Conquering Loneliness

Our separation from our mate exposes the emptiness within us. Most of us thought that marriage would make us whole. And now, in the breakdown of our union, we are left feeling incomplete, lost, alone, flawed, and confused. We believe that our tears of sadness, walls of resignation, and cries of pain are caused by the collapse of our marriage, but here is more going on that we know. Much of our pain stems from our disconnection not just from our mate but from our divine source. And this disconnection can leave us feeling achingly lonely for a time. In this webisode we explore an exercise that asks you to differentiate the voice of your fear from the voice of your faith. Watch the segment, pick up a pen and paper, and see the difference it makes for you.

Divorce as Change

An Introduction to the Laws of Spiritual Divorce

Life presents us with many opportunities to awaken to our divine nature, the highest expression of ourselves. Some people call these opportunities spiritual wake-up calls. Most of the time they appear during times of great distress. Divorce is certainly one of these times. It is during this crisis that we have the opportunity to explore our inner world and begin the process of becoming intimate with our entire self, with our light as well as our dark. In this webisode Debbie relates her own story of divorce, what led her to creating Spiritual Divorce, and how it can help you transform your divorce from a moment of sadness into a time of deep personal change. And remember, at any time you are only a click away from reaching out to a Spiritual Divorce Coach who can be a shoulder to lean on and help you on the path to change.