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What can we learn from serial celebrity break-ups, billionaire bust-ups, misbehaving spouses, pants-on challenged politicos and the ever-shifting landscape of divorce law? Question is, "What CAN'T we learn"? With latte in hand and clicky finger at the ready, dive in for the best in divorce news, views, gossip, and buzz – assembled below for your reading pleasure.

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Hogan's Divorce: Hulk Muscles His Way Out of Condo

Posted by Jill Brooke on Tue, 08/19/2008 - 12:10am

Hulk Hogan's wrestling days may be behind him, but as E! News so aptly stated, he can still avoid being pinned.

Judge George W. Greer of Florida released the pro wrestler from a commitment to purchase a $4.2 million Las Vegas condo, a property he agreed to buy with estranged wife Linda Bollea back in 2005.

The commitment on the condo, in a sinking Las Vegas real estate market, has been a sticking point in their ongoing legal dealings, with Bollea just last month seeking to get her ex held in contempt of court and jailed for failing to pony up his share of the condo’s purchase price.

Her Miami lawyer, A.J. Barranco, Jr., said that the condo would be a good investment, even if other condo values have gone down, because Linda Bollea believes that their properties sell at a premium.

And if they walk away from the condo, they stand to lose much of their $840,000 down payment.

For Bollea and Hogan, divorce has become a spectator sport, and an example of what not to do. Some observers believe that it will be more than a year before the divorce is final. The divorce was started in 2007.

“We are thrilled that the judge did not require us to continue to engage in the folly of purchasing a $4.2 million condo at a time when we should be considering other matters,” Hogan's attorney, David Houston, told E! News.

Houston added that, in addition to his client getting off the real estate hook, a stipulation outside of court allowed Hogan the right to reside in a beach house that had previously been awarded solely to Linda.

Perhaps this was the judge's way of penalizing Linda Bollea for wasting the court's time. But she also gained some traction too.

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Divorce Ruining the Environment?

Posted by Maureen Dempsey on Tue, 08/12/2008 - 8:08am

The Australian posted a recent article on the impact of divorce on the environment. The claim? That the results of divorce — multiple homes, cars, energy use — is eating way at the earth's resources. One can't argue with that, especially as a new report by the Australia's Department of Environment, Water, Heritage and the Arts released the following numbers:

"A four-person family that breaks up will generate around 43 percent more garbage than they did when they were together. They will use up to 34 percent more water and up to 70 percent more energy, depending on the type of new dwellings being occupied."

But what we can argue with is the alternative: Stay in a broken relationship? And keep the kids there, too, just to cut down on the garbage and utilities? Please. A rise in energy consumption seems far less detrimental than forcing kids to stay in a glued-together, patched-up broken home. With the electricity they save now, they'll be running up their therapist's bill with all the hours they'll spend sitting on the couch in 10 years.

And let's remember, with second marriages come a union of two houses to one. Live Science reports that the environmental footprint of U.S. households who had "weathered divorce and remarriage shrank back to that of married households."

If researchers are looking to pin the environmental crisis on something, divorce is really the least of our worries.

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Divorce Threatens Homes

Posted by Linda Lee on Thu, 07/24/2008 - 6:24pm

The house on one side is up for sale, and has been for a long time. On the other side, the house has already been foreclosed. Now, statistics in Australia say, if you are facing divorce, chances are your house is going to be up for sale too, within the next two years.

A study by the Australian Housing and Urban Research Institute looked at home ownership among couples who stayed together and couples who broke up.

Not surprisingly, home ownership fell from 69 percent to less than 50 percent in the two years following a couple splitting up. What was surprising was that home-ownership rose to 90 percent in couples who stayed together.

Professor Gavin Wood, from the Royal Melbourne Institute of Technology in Australia, told “The Sydney Morning Herald” that, within one year of separation, people spending more than a third of their income on mortgage payments rose from 3 percent to 34 percent.

“So,” he said, “within a year of breaking up, you have a third of these people in mortgage stress.” That is often the wife, who usually is the one to keep the family home.

Some 20 percent of divorced women sell their house to pay for retirement, the study found, twice the number of men who does the same thing.

Men, the study found, are more able to make adjustments in housing costs, even if he “falls out of home ownership.”

Another study by the same institute, in 2004, showed that divorced and separated people had a lower probability of attaining home ownership, compared to those who remained married. But those who divorce and remarry were found to have the same chance of home ownership as those who remained continuously married.

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Is Divorce Becoming a Luxury?

Posted by Editor on Sun, 07/06/2008 - 8:24pm

Is it possible that times are so bad, and divorce is so expensive, couples are staying together? It seems that divorces have moved into the luxury category, along with gas-guzzling cars, soy lattes at Starbucks, and big homes. Fine for those who can afford it.

That's what an article in the Newark Star-Ledger says, with statistics to prove it.

The number of couples signing on with mediators has fallen 21 percent in one year, according to Keila M. Gilbert, president of the Alpha Resource Center, a nonprofit divorce mediation network based in Doylestown, Pennsylvania. Part of the reason, she thinks, is housing prices. If the home is a couple's only real asset, and it can't be sold, or it would be sold at a loss, that makes it very difficult to resolve a divorce.

Moreover, with some husbands and wives losing their jobs, or not being able to find work at their previous level, it becomes clear that it's a bad time to split up: all expenses will be higher for two separate households, starting with health insurance and ending with cable TV.

For couples who are barely making it now, divorce becomes a near impossibility.

A divorce mediator in Metuchin, New Jersey, Michael Grodjeski, said: "They end up getting stuck living together. It's not easy, but don't forget, couples who come to mediation tend to be more amicable about their divorce. They can continue to live together, not happily maybe, but they are trying to make the best of things."

Of course, for some women, divorce isn't a luxury, it's a necessity. It may mean renting their home out and keeping it in both names until the market improves, or it may mean biting the bullet and making a break. Even reduced circumstances are better than living in an unhappy home.

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Together, Apart

Posted by Linda Lee on Tue, 06/17/2008 - 8:48am

Meet Louise Rush and Alan Bamberger, of San Francisco. They were divorced six years ago, but they still live in the same 2,700-square-foot Victorian house. She takes a downstairs bedroom, he takes an upstairs one, where he is close to their two sons. Lisa Belkin wrote an 8,000 word article “When Mom and Dad Share It All” in The New York Times Sunday magazine on June 14. But she didn’t have room for the Bambergers or another divorced couple that has split responsibilities amicably, even after divorce. You can read about them here on her blog about equally shared divorce.

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London Trophy Wives Dropping Bankrupt Hubbies

Posted by Naomi Dunne on Sat, 05/31/2008 - 2:00pm

The trophy wives are on their way out in London. Thousands of jobs have been lost in the city's financial districts and rumors are flying that dozens more are on the way. The result? A trophy wife exodus.

Sandra Davis of Mishcon de Reya — the law firm formerly known as "Heather Mills' lawyers" — says that since the layoffs have started the number of inquiries about divorce and division of assets has tripled. "When money looks like [it's] flying out the window, love walks out of the door."

Paula Hall from Relate, a relationship counseling service, has a slightly less cynical view. "More financial stress will tend to show the cracks in marriage contracts which were either overtly or covertly financial in the first place."

Another Mishcon de Reya divorce attorney Miles Geffin thinks that the increase isn't just as simple as the trophy wives marching out the door while there are still assets to divide. He thinks that the working partner — in this case, the man — has just as much motivation to divorce under these circumstances as the woman.

"Businessmen who lose their job often see it as an opportunity to head straight off to the divorce court before they find a new job — so alimony payments will be based on their unemployed status."

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Men's Mag Offers Free Divorce

Posted by Christina Camardella on Sat, 04/19/2008 - 12:00pm

Nowadays, some men are looking at divorce as something that they can win, similar to the lotto. At least that's the message being given by Australian men's mag Zoo Weekly. Its readers are invited to write in and explain why they deserve to "win" a divorce.

The competition will allow one lucky, disgruntled husband to "unleash themselves back to bachelorhood" without having to spend a cent on the inconvenience of lawyers.

Zoo Weekly claims its $10,000 divorce package is an Australian first and has everything a marriage escapee needs to embrace the life of a bachelor, including a divorce party complete with pin-up girls.

The other prizes include a three-tiered divorce cake, a home cleaner, a plasma television, PlayStation 3, and a year's subscription to Zoo to help ease transition from the marital home.

Zoo Weekly has previously been host to another tasteless contest in which readers were encouraged to enter to win free breast enhancement for their girlfriend. Surprised? Not so much.

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Homemaker Loses Out in Settlement

Posted by Naomi Dunne on Thu, 04/17/2008 - 2:00pm

Women's rights activists are up in arms about a contentious divorce case in Tennessee that may result in the local marital property laws to be changed. According to an article in Tennessean.com, "a wage-earning husband gets to keep $1.7 million in stock. His homemaker wife gets nothing."

Okay, I admit, when we're talking about the rights of the stay-at-home spouse — and let's face it, while many husbands including my own are starting to stay home, it's generally the wife — and there are a few million dollars in play, I can see why people are getting concerned. Some are suggesting that if this settlement goes through as is, it could be precedent setting and go against state laws.

But, and there's a really big but, I don't think that this case has anything to do with the wife being a homemaker. The court says that the husband is being allowed to keep the stock and not share it because all he did was hold it after receiving it as a gift from his father. Her employment status is irrelevant.

In my opinion — and I know this is going to make me the bad guy — when you decide not to work, you take a risk. A gift given to one individual is just that — a gift with only one intended recipient. If Daddy had given him a cheese knife, is she entitled to half of that, too?

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Evangelicals Hold the Key to Marriage

Posted by Faith Eggers on Tue, 04/01/2008 - 9:23am

Extra! Extra! Want a better chance at a lasting marriage? Become an Evangelical. According to a new study by The Barna Group, evangelicals are less likely than the overall population to divorce, although one out of every four evangelicals who are or have been married nevertheless have gone through at least one divorce. Compared to about one out of two for the general U.S. population.

The survey was based on a sample of 5,017 adults conducted over a year, from January 2007 through January 2008. Of this sample, 3,792 adults were or had been married.

Christian researcher George Barna said Americans have grown accustomed to divorce and added,"There no longer seems to be much of a stigma attached to divorce; it is now seen as an unavoidable rite of passage." And indeed it does.

Barna goes on to suggest that one reason for the shockingly high divorce rate in America is co-habitation. He says that although government statistics have shown that co-habitation increases the likelihood of divorce, it is still growing in popularity.

Why? Barna suggests that America has become an "experimental, experience-driven culture" and rather than learning from the objective and teaching based information, people prefer to follow their instincts and let the chips fall where they may. Personally, I couldn't agree more.

So, what do you have to do to be considered an evangelical by Barna researchers? Click here to read about that, and more.

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The Solution to Divorce? Housework, Apparently

Posted by Julie Savard on Thu, 03/06/2008 - 1:28pm

Who would've thought that doing laundry, washing dishes, picking up dirty clothes and vacuuming could be the answer to a woman's marital problems? But wait, it gets even better: For a happy marriage, the person doing the housework should be the man.

The Council on Contemporary Families' released a recent summary report of some studies, and the suggestion that housework lowers divorce rates is right there in black and white.

It's about sex. The deal is that we trade off some nookiage in the bedroom with our husbands in exchange for a little housework. Apparently, it works.

Joshua Coleman, a San Francisco-area psychologist and author of The Lazy Husband: How to Get Men to Do More Parenting and Housework, suggests this: "Equitable sharing of housework can lead to a happier marriage and more frequent sex."

Really? Is that so?

Ah, but Joshua's sneaky... "If a guy does housework, it looks to the woman like he really cares about her - he's not treating her like a servant." Sounds like some psychological strategy to get a little booty. But come on, girls. We always knew that "I love you" really meant, "Are you naked yet?"

The bigger question is, though: Does it work? Can you really trade off sex for housework and have a better marriage?

Yup, sounds like it. Coleman reports, "If a woman feels stressed out because the house is a mess and the guy's sitting on the couch while she's vacuuming, that's not going to put her in the mood." Um, no kidding, Coleman.

But I'll tell you something. If I had a husband, and he cleaned my house until it sparkled while I lazed on the sofa watching Brad Pitt movies, I wouldn't mind a little playtime between the sheets.

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