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What can we learn from celebrity break-ups, billionaire settlements, straying husbands, downright daunting divorce laws, or scandalous politicians? PLENTY! Meet our contributing writers and professional advisors who are tickled pink to ponder all of the news, views, gossip and buzz that we love to hear!

Katherine McKee's picture

K-Fed and Britney's Legal Bills Mount

Posted by Katherine McKee on Tue, 03/11/2008 - 10:30am

Apparently, K-Fed, Britney Spears' ex, is a generous tipper.

According to attorneys for Spears, if Kevin Federline can tip a waitress $2,000, he can afford to pay his own legal bills. And boy are those bills mounting: K-Fed is looking at a $405,000 legal tab that he thinks his ex should pay.

Spears' new attorney Stacy Phillips told a court commissioner that Federline should pay between $150,000 and $175,000. She alleges that K-Fed omitted his $200,000 spousal-support checks from his earning declarations. Phillips also alleges that Federline recently tipped a waitress $2,000 on a $365 bill, and spent $20,000 on jewelry, phone calls and food while listing the charges as "business expenses."

Naturally, K-Fed's attorney says Spears should keep writing the checks. Spears' old law firm Trope and Trope reportedly charged her $630,000 for four months' work, while Federline's portion of the bill from his attorney was about $250,000 less.

These legal fees are mind-blowing but when you consider that attorneys, all kinds, routinely make $500 an hour, not including the hefty retainers they receive at the get-go....well, it's not unfathomable to see how quickly celebrity divorce cases hit the million dollar mark.

We're waiting to see what happens in the Mills/McCartney ruling, supposedly scheduled for March 17. And now, we're waiting with bated breath for the Spitzers to split; the New York Governor, in case you haven't heard, was caught up in a prostitution ring. Eliot Spitzer comes from a wealthy family but it's Silda who earned the big bucks as a high-powered corporate attorney. We'll wait and see...

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The Midlife Crisis: New Cause Of Divorce

Posted by Maureen Dempsey on Mon, 02/25/2008 - 2:15pm

A midlife crisis is the cause for:

a) a shiny new sports car in the driveway
b) your husband’s suspicious fascination with the new (younger) girl at work
c) a divorce
d) all of the above

If you answered "d," you are correct! We all know that the first two answers are no-brainers, but a recent article in the Guardian newspaper reported that growing numbers of divorcing couples in the U.K. are citing "midlife crisis" as a cause for separation.

"Midlife crisis" ranks second, just behind extramarital affairs, for reasons for filing and has risen from just 2% in 2006 to 14% for 2007.

Bonus fact: In 93% of midlife cases, the man was the one having the crisis. Surprise, surprise!

If you're involved in a contested divorce, or are about to be, you need to be aware of using electronic devices to uncover illicit affairs or hidden assets.

It goes without saying that there is a treasure trove of information in your spouse's computer, Blackberry, cell phone and other electronic gadgets. It may seem like snooping, but during the discovery phase of a divorce, you can legitimately request copies of your spouse's e-mails. They may reveal adulterous relationships or hidden property. And that information can go a long way toward aiding your cause in contested issues such as custody, income and expenses.

GPS devices may reveal the whereabouts of a cheating spouse on days when you have doubts about unreasonable explanations. Another tool, now available with a court order, are E-ZPass toll records, which can similarly be used to establish rendezvous with a lover.

But this data mining isn't without its share of pitfalls. Electronic sleuthing can be illegal if you improperly access private electronic sources. If you break into a device, or if you lack permission to access it, the court may prohibit you from using the information in your case. Self-help steps must be employed legally. If you are an authorized user of your spouse's computer or cell phone, the information would be legally discovered.

You can open up a mine field of damaging evidence so long as no crime is committed in securing the facts. Internet browser histories, cell phone records and e-mails are increasingly being introduced into disputed divorce actions. Don't illegally take a Blackberry or laptop to a forensic expert to retrieve deleted information. Don't steal passwords. Attorneys and courts won't be party to illegal acts or invasions of privacy. But aside from those warnings, happy data mining.

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Valentine's Day: D-Day For Process Servers

Posted by Naomi Dunne on Sat, 02/16/2008 - 4:00pm

To celebrate the week of Valentine's Day, CBS News ran a comprehensive report on the state of marriage and divorce in America. I was expecting to be depressed, or maybe hopeful. I ended up being both.

First, there were stats. The seven-year itch has turned into the eight-year itch, which is progress, I guess. The average age for a first marriage has increased dramatically, which is a hopeful sign — when you're older, there's supposed to be a better chance you know what you're getting yourself into. People of both genders are more educated more now than they have ever been through the entire of human history, which helps. These are good things.

Then the not-so-good. Hidden in the second page of the article are some legal tales from the trenches. Divorce attorneys are saying that people have come to anticipate the high cost of divorce and are often going out of their way to make things more unpleasant for their soon-to-be ex. "It's one thing to get a really good gun, it's another to get lots of ammo with it," said one lawyer. "And when you're really, really mad, and you have the money to do something about it, that's what wars are made of."

His favorite horror story? Valentine's Day. "Having the process server specifically told, 'I want to make sure you get to her on Valentine's Day.' And then if you really want to rub salt in it, they have them film it. Believe it or not, they've done that! To where 'I want to be able to watch it, I want to see it. I want sound'." Sound, people. They want to hear what happens when their spouse's life falls apart on Valentine's Day.

And before anybody gets it in their head that it's men doing this, think again. Two thirds of divorces are filed by women. It's not just the guys being mean, so we can all drop the "men are evil" act right now.

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Standing Up For What's Yours

Posted by Jennifer Bailey on Sat, 02/16/2008 - 12:00pm

Most of us at some point in time have heard the horror stories surrounding child support payments and alimony. You may have experienced it first hand, or perhaps a friend or loved one has become exasperated trying to collect money that is owed to them. But now a recent poll conducted by GFK Roper gives us a better picture of just how many people are affected by lack of support payments.

The poll showed that 24 percent of divorced Americans are supposed to be receiving child support payments, but only a handful of people are actually getting the payments. Only 25 percent of people who are supposed to be receiving alimony actually got the entire amount, 29 percent didn't receive any amount at all and only 17 percent received a partial amount. Perhaps the even scarier statistic is that only 6 percent of people not receiving child support or alimony payments are actually fighting for their rights.

Something has to be done when only 6 percent of people not receiving money owed to them because of a divorce are able to stand up and ask for what they deserve. There may be a few reasons why this is so. I know of a few people who have decided not to go after their ex-spouse because they know their ex does not have the money the court has ordered them to pay. However, this rarely seems to be the case.

Instead, there is a prevalent belief that either the court will not be able to make the ex-spouse pay, or more commonly it is too expensive to go to court in the first place. Because they are not receiving support payments in the first place, many people in this position can't come up with the money to pay for additional court costs and lawyer fees.

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Heather Mills Scores $108 Million Settlement

Posted by Katherine McKee on Sat, 02/16/2008 - 9:04am

Heather Mills, the ex-wife of former Beatle Paul McCartney, is just a little richer today, having scored a $108 million dollar settlement after a week-long battle in a British court.

The Daily Mail newspaper also reports that Mills will receive a lump sum of $40 million with another $5 million a year after the couple's daughter Beatrice, 4, turns 18.

The newspaper reports that the whopper settlement represents just a fraction of McCartney's fortune.

Originally, Mills asked for up to $160 million.

The Mills/McCartney nasty divorce began in May 2006; Mills is the primary caretaker of the couple's daughter but both parents have equal visitation.

The settlement managed to eclipse the previous British divorce settlement record of $94 million. That record was set by businessman John Charman.,

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Stealing The Divorce Money

Posted by Amanda Lockhart on Sat, 02/09/2008 - 4:00pm

We'd all like to think that divorces can be accomplished without ugliness and outright nastiness, but we all know it doesn't happen that way much of the time. And a woman in Des Moines is finding that out the hard way.

The woman claims that her husband broke into a safe — presumably in their house — and took a $3,000 cashier's check that she intended to use to pay her lawyer. She reported the incident to police, according to a report in the Des Moines Register. But as some reader comments on the Register's Web site indicate, she may not have any legal recourse. Since they're not divorced yet, it may be tough for her to lay claim to that money as "hers."

And that underscores the importance of something we talk about here at FWW all the time: separating your finances as soon as you can once a divorce gets started. Now, it's true that she might very well have done that. And depending on who the cashier's check was made out to, the guy may not be able to do anything with it anyway.

But in any case, if you're worried your ex is going to do something to screw you, it's crucial to take precautions. You'd think putting the check in a safe would be good enough. But apparently not. Learn from this woman's tough luck and don't let something like this happen to you.

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Celebrity Splits Roundup

Posted by Donna Carlisle on Fri, 02/08/2008 - 10:00am

Here's a rundown of the latest in celebrity divorce. Just the thing to get you through those last ticking hours at work!

In British news, Cheryl Cole, a singer in the group Girls Aloud, may be divorcing her soccer hubby Ashley Cole after discovering that he slept with a hairdresser and offered her money to have an abortion. Originally, after these first claims were made, she said she'd stick by her husband, but other women have come forward since then claiming they too have slept with him. He has reportedly begged her to come back, but she remains away from the family home in an undisclosed location and refuses to speak to him. Sounds like this one will be over before you can say World Cup.

Coming back over to our side of the ocean, Dina Matos McGreevey and former New Jersey governor Jim McGreevey (pictured here) are in court yet again for their messy, ongoing divorce. Dina had petitioned the court for full and broad access to Jim's partner's financial holdings, claiming that the couple's money was intertwined, and as such she had a right to see what he owned and possessed. The courts agreed in part, saying that the three joint bank accounts the gay couple share are up for view, but Mark O'Donnell's salary, stocks, and other various financial dealings are not to be revealed for court scrutiny.

Dina and Jim are still attempting to hammer out child support and custody issues, with Dina apparently trying to get every cent that she can. I must say it's hard to blame her. Most women would probably be rather angry to have their husband come to them after years of marriage and a child born and say they're gay. As long as she doesn't go all Heather Mills, she'll probably have a good shot at custody and a chunk of his cash.

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Survey Says Divorce Attorney Fees Not So Scary

Posted by Amanda Lockhart on Sat, 01/26/2008 - 4:00pm

Earlier this week, I wrote about a British law firm that conducted a survey about divorce. The point of it was to illustrate that few people were aware of mediation services that can help make the process easier and less expensive.

The other day I ran across another statistic from that same survey that really surprised me. Seventy-six percent of the 2,000 people surveyed said they did not consider the prospect of high legal fees a deterrent to divorce. I guess if you want to split up, you're going to do what you've got to do, legal fees be damned. But my instinct was that more people would be intimidated by the costs.

Again the statistic comes from a law firm that's pushing its services, which include the less-expensive option of mediation. But still it's nice to know the cost isn't holding too many people back. It would be a shame if that were the case.

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Hulk Saw It Coming

Posted by Donna Carlisle on Fri, 01/25/2008 - 10:00am

In divorce proceedings, it seems like the more money you have, the longer it will drag on. Of course, celebrity marriages have quite a knack for staying around and quibbling over houses, savings, spousal support and child support.

Hulk Hogan's divorce is starting along no differently. His estranged wife Linda Bollea claims that her beefy hubby sold their Miami home and put the profits away into accounts she's unable to access. She also says that he tried to get her to sign a post-nuptial agreement — her main motivating factor for going ahead with the divorce.

Linda has filed some documents requesting that the judge take action and bar the Hulkster from spending or tucking away any more of the money made on the house's sale. She also claims that he engaged in some suspicious behavior over the past year in regard to their finances.

Apparently, he saw this coming, or he was intending on making the same move himself. Either way, the battle has now begun.

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