We've written more than once on First Wives World about the traumatic effects that divorce has on children. Many readers and writers here have experienced for themselves the dramatic changes in their kids' behavior, school performance and relationships.

On the other hand, many men and women who have gone through a divorce themselves have struggled to find ways to cope and even thrive in the post-divorce period. Marvin Gaye wrote an album about it. Anastasia Royal wrote a novel. And Libby Rees wrote a self-help book — when she was 10.

"Help, Hope & Happiness" was a "runaway success," offering advice and encouragement to children going through their parents' divorce. When Libby was going through it herself — her parents divorced five years ago — she said that she received a lot of support from the adults in her life. The problem was, she — and others like her — feel that parents and other adults are just telling children what they want to hear. She felt there was a huge gap in information for children old enough to understand what was going on, but still too young to really know how to handle it.

Turns out, she was right. Her book has been translated into five languages, and she's taking part in a television series based on the information she gives.

So what did she do to get through the hard times? "One of the first things I did was go for walks to help me think more clearly. I would pick up a stick, label it with whatever was worrying me that day, then fling it away. It was my way of distancing myself from it."

Can somebody find me an adult with coping mechanisms this good? Libby has handled the whole thing so well that she's moved on to her second book — "At Sixes & Sevens" — about handling the transition from primary to secondary school.

Where was this stuff when I was a kid? All I got was Judy Blume.

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