

What can we learn from serial celebrity break-ups, billionaire bust-ups, misbehaving spouses, pants-on challenged politicos and the ever-shifting landscape of divorce law? Question is, "What CAN'T we learn"? With latte in hand and clicky finger at the ready, dive in for the best in divorce news, views, gossip, and buzz – assembled below for your reading pleasure.
Our current contributors are Jill Brooke, Maureen Dempsey, Naomi Dunn, and Linda Lee.

Peter Cook’s goose may be cooked. By dishing to ABC’s Barbara Walters, the porn-loving ex of Christie Brinkley broke a confidentiality agreement not to discuss his divorce. But his temper, he says, was boiling because he felt that he got unfairly grilled. The interview will be aired on 20/20 on Friday.
So why did Peter Cook carelessly cavort with an 18-year-old and also resort to on-line porn? Seems he felt that the Mrs., one of the most gorgeous gals on the planet, wasn’t making him feel desired.
"I was seeking a connection I could not find in my own marriage," Cook said to Walters. "I think the emotional aspect of our lives had changed. I think we were both feeling more like we were living with a brother and sister than a life partner."
So, he said, he suddenly realized something was missing.
"I wanted a little acknowledgment, a little attention, a little thank you every now and then for my efforts, for the amount of time I took to care for her and my family, for the wealth I was building," he said.
At times, the architect and builder said, “I pulled up [to] the driveway to the home that I found, that I built, that I lived in, and I felt like I was a guest in someone else's life."
Well guess what? He is now a guest who’s not welcome anywhere.
Cook has found his life systematically dismantled now that he doesn’t have Brinkley by his side.
As we reported in July, Brinkley divorced Cook after finding out that he was fooling around with Diana Bianchi while also spending up to $3,000 a month on Internet porn.

Is being single such a bad thing? Especially after divorce? A few celebs' friends think so. Pink's buddies are pushing the recently divorced pop singer to start dating again, says The Metro, despite her distaste for the singles scene. She admits that she "never goes on dates," and prefers less obvious hookup scenarios.
Pink better watch out, or before she knows it, matchmakers will start popping up — which happens to be the case for Tom Arnold, says contactmusic.com. Maria Shriver, of all people, is playing Arnold's cupid. (The connection? Arnold is a good friend of Shriver's husband, Arnold Schwarznegger.) In fact, Shriver has been labeled Arnold's dating coach, matching him up with friends after his third divorce earlier this year. The results? Mixed:
He explains, "When your friends set you up, you really know what they think of you — and evidently my friends think I'm old and fat."
Regardless of the outcome, why must everyone have someone? What do you think? Tell us below.

Here's what happens when a divisive couple deals with a housing slump. A Cambodian couple resorted to a drastic solution to combat the country's notoriously corrupt and expensive court system by literally — and we mean literally — cutting their house in half.
According to the Khmer-language "Koh Santepheap" newspaper, Meuon Rima sought a divorce from his wife, Nhang, both 40, because she refused to nurse him during a recent illness. They decided to split their house, which was built on stilts, rather than deal with what they considered a diseased court system.
Rima sawed the house down the middle with "surgical precision," the newspaper reported. He was last seen driving away from the village in southeastern Prey Veng province hauling half of the home with him.
It was not known where he had gone with his very detached piece of marital assets, it said. And apparently Rima had not felt the same need to divvy up the couple's two teenage children, both of whom were left with Nhang.
One would argue that the heart of the home is the family, so in that sense he left the home mostly intact.
FWW has reported on many solutions to deal with divorce and housing, including how to divide the family home and if you should keep the house, but we don’t recommend actually splitting the house. Granted that just last year a man in Germany, facing divorce, chain-sawed a house he shared with his wife in two, and then hauled “his half” away to his brother’s property on a forklift truck.
Usually when couples resort to what is called “The War of the Roses” solution, referring to the 1989 movie about a fractious divorce, they simply keep living there, each taking separate quarters and turning the kitchen into a demilitarized zone.
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It’s a case of “She Said, He Said.” Last week, Meg Ryan dished about the reasons for her divorce from Dennis Quaid while she was promoting her film The Women, in which she plays a scorned wife.
This week, Quaid returns fire. And this is, mind you, about a divorce that happened eight years ago.
In promoting The Women, Ryan told In Style magazine and ABC News that the reason for her divorce was not her affair with Russell Crowe but because Quaid had been unfaithful first and for a long time.
“I find it unbelievable that Meg continues publicly to rehash and rewrite the story of our relationship,” Quaid told Rush & Molloy. “Also, I find it regrettable that our son, Jack, has to be reminded in a public way of the turmoil and pain that every child feels in a divorce."
Quaid has a point. It is a no-no to badmouth your ex in public, because the child, who wants to get along with both parents, feels helpless and conflicted. It also reopens their own wounds, which seriously affects a child, even one Jack’s age, 16.
When an affair has occurred, it rocks a kid's sense of trust.
A deep betrayal has murdered the child’s image of his family. He now has to reconsider his perception of his father and mother and wonder if they might betray his trust too.
Luckily, time does heal those wounds as the parents prove that their love for him is unchanged.
Sometimes kids also see that, with new partners, their parents are truly in love. Luckily for Quaid, he is now happily married to real estate agent Kimberly Buffington and they had twins last November. By all reports, their marriage is solid and loving.
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Warren Buffett, the world's richest man, admits he made a poor choice. No, not that he didn't invest more in Google than Microsoft, but that he didn't work harder on his relationship with his late wife, Susie, the mother of his three children.
"The biggest mistake I ever made was letting her walk out the door," he says.
As with many separations, Susie was driven to it.
Buffett, 78, who spent hours and hours talking with the author Alice Schroeder for the book The Snowball, regrets that he gave Susie so many reasons to leave, say Rush & Molloy in The Daily News.
One was Katharine Graham, publisher of The Washington Post, and Newsweek. Buffett was 46 when Graham, then a 59-year-old widow, became smitten with him. They spent time at her Martha’s Vineyard home and traveled widely.
What is surprising is that Graham's own marriage was ruined by her husband’s infidelity. And who knew before this book that Katharine Graham was one of the early cougars? (While we at FWW approve of dating someone who's fabulously younger and cute, it is verboten to date a married man no matter what his age.)
Graham, it turns out, was pretty open about the affair with Buffett, and was seen tossing her house key to Buffet at parties. Schroeder writes that Susie "made it plain to several friends that she was furious and humiliated," but reports that she sent Graham a letter granting her permission to date her husband.
"Kay showed the letter to people as though it let her off the hook," Schroeder says.
Naturally the humiliation at home marinated into resentment.
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Jenna Fischer's character on The Office, Pam, is artfully played by the actress: She is the girl next door; the relatable, dependable best friend. If she's not quite you, she's certainly someone you know. Pam may be on the verge of marriage on the award-winning show, but Fischer (photo right) has made it to the other side of marital woes and a divorce from her Hollywood filmmaker husband, James Gunn, says contactmusic.com.
The two divorced after a seven-year marriage in September 2007. Ready to move on — but smart enough to abstain from playing the rebound game — Fischer officially introduced her new man, writer Lee Kirk, at last Sunday's Emmy awards.
While Fischer is moving beyond divorce, her equivalent on the British Office might not be faring so well. Lucy Davis (photo left) played Dawn, on the equally, if not more, popular BBC production (in addition to a smaller part on the short-lived Studio 60 on the Sunset Strip, RIP).
Photogs caught the actress looking forlorn, a bit heavier than we're used to seeing her, and minus her wedding ring. The tabs' verdict? Must be marital turmoil, says The Daily Mail.
It's unfortunate that anyone's weight gains are pointed out so unabashedly, and conclusions are drawn so quickly, but it stings even more when that person is a likable, seemingly genuine individual. Or maybe we're just projecting Pam/Dawn on Lucy?
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Meg Ryan was driven to it. After eight years of silence, she finally revealed why she was susceptible to falling into Russell Crowe’s arms. In an interview with InStyle magazine, Ryan, 46, said it was Dennis Quaid’s womanizing that helped collapse their 10 year marriage.
“Dennis was not faithful to me for a long time and that was very painful,” said Ryan, whose new film, The Women, is about divorce.
But those flings were not public, so the perception was that it was Ryan who broke up the marriage.
To her credit, she didn’t badmouth Quaid, the father of her son, Jack, when they split up.
Her relationship with Crowe soon ended, and now she admits that she ended up hurting both him and her husband.
"Russell didn't break up the marriage," she says. "I was a mess. I hurt him too at the end. I couldn't be in another long relationship. It wasn't the time for that. So I got out."
Whether it's a man or a woman doing it, an affair is not a cure for dissatisfaction. You have to deal with yourself before you can then deal with someone else again.
Ryan also made clear that all women have choices in how they deal with events and what they tolerate in a marriage. “I was not a victim," she said. "I was there. I was in that marriage for a really long time." Subtext is that she was putting up with it for awhile before she had enough.
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A French bride's virginity lies at the center of a series of rulings and appeals, reports postcourieronline.com. The twentysomething Muslim woman told her suitor, a Muslim man in his thirties, that she was a virgin, but the truth was revealed on the wedding night.
After he found out, he promptly filed for an annulment, his lawyer referencing a French Civil Code that allows such action if a partner has misrepresented his/her "essential qualities."
State prosecutors argue that virginity does not fall under "essential qualities," and is, in fact, discriminatory. Says the article:
Making a wife's virginity a condition of marriage "would be discriminatory because it would harm the principles of equality between men and women, of free use of one's body and the dignity of the human being."
Hmmm...have to agree with this one.
Unfortunately, this isn't a groundbreaking case. European Muslim women have sought reconstructive hymen surgeries or "certificates of virginity" for decades. MSNBC profiled several surgeons who routinely perform the procedures on women who feel a marriage — or perhaps a life — is hinged upon their chastity.
Should the current judgment be overruled for the newlyweds, an annulment will no longer be an option, and the couple must file for divorce.

The tabloids must feel that Nancy Shevell is the Sarah Palin of girlfriends… someone you’d never heard of, and now, as Paul McCartney’s squeeze, she’s everywhere. But she may be more like a Camilla Parker-Bowles, Prince Charles’s true love, who was introduced only gradually to the public as his girlfriend.
They were first spotted together 10 months ago in the Hamptons and, despite a gazillion pictures of them smooching and holding hands, she said they were “just friends.”
As of last week, and next, the McCartney-Shevell relationship is all out in the open. They made a very public appearance last week at a fashion event in London for McCartney’s daughter, Mary, after which Shevell joined the McCartneys for dinner. His family likes her a lot, he said.
McCartney raved that night about Shevell and their American cross-country trip on Route 66 in his 1989 Ford Bronco: “Brilliant,” he said.
That’s not a trip you take with “just a friend.” They drove from the Hamptons, to Illinois, to Santa Monica, proving that traveling with a former Beatle means the whole world is like a small town full of gossips. Numerous people along the way, including a man who gave them a parking ticket, seemed flummoxed to find Paul McCartney in a vintage Bronco, making a pit stop at a gas station, or checking into a hotel.
The tabloids kept up breathless coverage, and began discussing marriage. (Technicality: she’s still married.)
McCartney put the brakes on those rumors somewhat by saying, “It is still early days, but we are very much together.”
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Love is often elastic — and can retain its strength even after divorce. As soon as Travis Barker’s ex-wife, Shanna Moakler, heard that Barker, the former drummer for Blink 182, was seriously injured in a plane crash, she rushed to his side.
Barker and DJ AM are the survivors of a crash in South Carolina that sadly left four other people dead: the pilot Sarah Lemmon, 31; the co-pilot James Bland, 52; security guard Charles Still, 25; and Barker's assistant Chris Baker, 29.
Doctors have said that both Barker and DJ AM , whose real name is Adam Michael Goldstein and who was once engaged to Nicole Richie, should survive, but that the recuperation from their burns will be long and painful.
Shanna Moakler, 33, a former Miss USA and Playboy Playmate, was married to Barker, 32, from 2004 until earlier this year. They have two children, son Landon 4 and daughter Alabama 2, and were known from an MTV reality TV show called “Meet the Barkers.”
Barker’s ex-mother-in-law told People Magazine that “there’s still love between them. “
“They may be divorced by they’re still very close. She spends a lot of time with him. Their priorities are their kids."
As of this weekend, the children have not yet been told about the accident because they are so young. Whether it is about divorce or illness, parents should edit what they tell young children.
It’s heart warming to hear about Moakler rushing to her ex-husband’s side, because it’s a reality for many divorced couples that the bond extends beyond the divorce. Once you are parents, you are forever connected to your ex-husband.
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