I am the a-typical Irish/Italian Catholic girl. I spent 13 years in catholic school (yup, that's right I even went to catholic kindergarten), even went to the same catholic school as my parents and grandparents. I completely disagree with this ideology. As a young person, and as the priests so love to call us "the future of our church", I really feel like the catholic church needs to stop clinging onto old traditions by the tips of their nails and catch up with this time. People and the world evolve and if the church doesn't evolve with us then it may very well be left behind. There are many "empires" that were thought to last forever that have fallen, even with a tremendous following. People don't want to be preached at anymore, we don't want to be made to feel guilty for who we are or how we feel anymore. I think it's funny that the poll said most catholics think people should get divorces if they so need. I always thought that we were taught that every man was made by god in Jesus' form, so we should live the lives we wish to. "Jesus gave his life for his people," yes so they may live and enjoy every moment that we are privileged to experience because so many sacrificed for it. Not be miserable and hate who we are or how we feel because it's "wrong" yet we feel it nonetheless. I certainly hope the church realizes it's need to stop preaching at people and start making a community of love, support, and respect. That's what is so great about the First Wives World community, that is all it is. We are here to love, support, and help each other with no judgments and no accusations. The community I see in the First Wives World social network is absolutely amazing. Each woman is sharing their story and helping or supporting everyone else, it is so wonderful to see. Check out the social network, you'll see what I mean. http://community.firstwivesworld.com/?page=home