Britney Spears' visitation rights were reinstated on Friday after her ex-husband Kevin Federline agreed to a modification in a court order. The troubled pop star will get to see her kids Sean Preston and Jayden James (we don't know when) after two stints at psychiatric facilities and several court appearances.

K-Fed has sole physical and legal custody of the boys; Britney's visitation rights were suspended on January 4 after her first hospitalization.

No matter the situation — and it's unclear exactly what her condition is (published reports say it's everything from bi-polar disorder to manic depression to obsessive compulsive disorder) — Britney will likely feel better when she sees her children. And the kids? At the tender ages of 2 and 1, respectively, these kids need their mother's presence in their lives. Is their mother troubled? To be sure. But childhood memories and emotional/physical bonds form very early. Attachment and abandonment issues come to the fore very quickly even in infancy.

I sure hope Britney, who seemingly has all the resources (both financial and familial) in the world, gets the help and treatment she needs to improve her mental and physical well-being. Even if she goes back to the business of being Britney/mega pop star, she'll never be whole if her kids are out of her life for long.

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Kids can be emotionally damaged for life if parents don't enable and encourage them to express their emotions about the situation. That was the message yesterday on an "Oprah" segment.

Oprah spoke with M. Gary Neuman, author and founder of the Sandcastles Program, a program for kids ages six to 17 designed to help them cope with their parents' separation or divorce.

On the show, Oprah and Neuman spoke with kids about the pain of their parents' divorces. In one case, a mother left her two kids in the care of their father, but the pain of her abandonment and rejection remained fresh as both the boy and girl wept openly over the loss.

Kids tend to feel responsible for the rejection of the parent who abandoned them, Neuman said. He told the two siblings on the show that they didn't make their mom go away and they can't make her return.

Neuman told the audience that if kids don't let their emotions out at the time of the split, they will become damaged adults. Frequently boys grow up to experience rage, girls experience chronic depression. "Kids heal through love and connection," Neuman said. "They blame themselves after divorce and secretly think they can fix the divorce."

Neuman said parents should hold their tongues and never criticize one another in front of the kids. Parents should speak to their kids frankly when they have decided to divorce and allow them to ask questions. Spend time listening and talking and afterward, have everyone hold hands and hug.

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From the U.K. comes a rather unbelievable story... Bert and Jean Jolley who were married and divorced TWICE, have decided the third time's a charm: They remarried recently for their third marriage to each other!

Bert, 59, and Jean, 54, hopefully have joined up for the last time. They have five kids and 26 grandchildren. So what made their relationship so on-again, off-again? It sounds like the typical rows and arguments couples have during marriage provoked each to file divorce papers on at least two occasions during their relationship.

"We have been on a bit of a merry-go round, but I think overall we have had a jolly good time of it," says Bert, in London's Daily Mail newspaper. "We have just had our ups and downs just like other marital couples but the fact is we are made for each other and this marriage is for keeps."

Aw...that's sweet. If only all splits ended up like this: Not splits at all.

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Charlie Sheen and Denise Richards' divorce troubles are heating up again. Seems that with Charlie on the verge of re-marriage—to Brooke Mueller—the estranged couple is battling over custody and visitation rights for their daughters Sam and Lola. Sheen and Richards are due back in court as Charlie seeks more freedom in his custody agreement. Currently, he has supervised visits with his daughters.

Honestly, aren't Charlie's hooker/drinkin'/druggin' days behind him? He would appear fairly stable. He has a hit show on CBS ("Two And A Half Men") or, at least what looks like enough of a hit these days. And who knows what broke up the marriage to Denise—uh well, I guess Charlie does love the ladies. :}

But supervised visits? Seriously... Come on...What is Denise afraid will happen? Or is she just jealous of the new gal?

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More Lohan family news today: Actress Lindsay Lohan's father withdrew a request to have his estranged wife tested for drugs. Michael and Dina Lohan appeared in court yesterday to discuss custody and child support arrangements for their two minor kids Ali and Dakota. Michael has admitted to alcohol abuse; he alleges that Dina takes pills. Lindsay was arrested more than a week ago for cocaine possession and driving while under the influence--she was sprung from rehab three weeks ago.

Michael said that withdrawing the request might improve his chances of being granted visitation rights with his children. He was released from prison in March and currently only has telephone calls with his daughter Ali,13, and her brother, Dakota, 10. Lindsay, 21, and her brother Michael Lohan Jr., 19, aren't involved in the custody and visitation deal since they are no longer minors.

Family Court Judge Stacy D. Bennett is now waiting for the results of a review by a family therapist, which is due Sept. 6. The Lohans are due back in divorce court Aug. 10.

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Actress Lindsay Lohan's estranged parents, Michael and Dina, are back in court today arguing over custody and visitation issues with respect to the actress' younger sister, Ali (13) and brother, Dakota (11).

The hearing at Nassau County (N.Y.) Family Court follows a hearing on Friday where the judge took Michael to task for failing to pay child support since his release from prison in March. Michael, formerly an investment banker who's been unemployed since his prison stint, was ordered to pay $500 per week in child support. The judge told him to find a job; he's been living at a faith-based drug treatment center in Long Island and counseling teens on the dangers of drugs and alcohol.

Meanwhile, Michael says he's not on Lindsay's payroll. Of course Lohan has her own problems stemming from her arrest last week for cocaine possession and driving drunk after being sprung from rehab just three weeks ago. It's her second arrest in three months.

"The obligation to pay child support is absolute. ... It is not to be taken willy-nilly," state Supreme Court Justice Robert A. Ross told Lohan on Friday. "Enough is enough."

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Okay, Britney Spears watchers: TMZ.com is reporting that Brit and Kevin Federline's marriage and drawn out custody arrangements will officially come to an end today. K-Fed was stalling signing papers allegedly due to concerns over Britney's parenting skills. The couple has two toddler-age sons.

Brit and K-Fed were married for two years. TMZ reports that lawyers will attempt to make the custody and spousal support orders secret. I highly doubt it! With so much interest in the case, there's hardly any doubt that leaks will occur.

The site also reports that K-Fed has been receiving $15,000 per month for child support payments and an additional $20,000 per month in a spousal support; those payments were specified in a pre-nup but are due to end in November.

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Kids at all ages and stages need time to adjust to divorce. That's a given. So, what can you expect from your kids? Of course it's different depending on their age. I found some good advice in the The (Montreal) Gazette from psychologist Harry Timmermans:

Age 0 to 2 years:
While babies can't put feelings into words, they still absorb the stress of their surroundings. There can be changes in eating or sleeping habits, though some babies have delayed reactions. Until about 18 months, babies don't really form visual images to store in their memory banks. Non-custodial parents should try to see their infant at least twice a week.

Age 3 to 5 years:
Kids might be more cranky than usual and throw tantrums. They may regress. Try to reassure them with lots of affection and attention. Kids at this stage are also highly imaginative, so don't assume everything they say is true. Periodic shorter visits are critical for non-custodial parents.

Age 6 to 8 years:
Children at this age are often very affected by the experience of divorce and will try to "replace" the absent parent by taking on his or her mannerisms. Try to reassure them that they are not responsible for the divorce and that both parents love them. Don't keep them in the dark; tell them the truth.

Age 9 to 12 years:
At this age, kids don't tend to talk about their feelings and can often appear happy even if they're depressed. They often express their anger indirectly, complaining about rules and discipline. Loyalty conflicts are rife at this stage; kids want to please both parents and fear they might upset one, by showing more affection for and commitment to the other. Try not to make your kid your confidant; it's not appropriate.

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So not only is Lindsay Lohan dealing with her drug and alcohol addictions, but her parent's acrimonious divorce and child custody case keeps rearing its head. The embattled star's parents, Dina and Michael, are back in family court dealing ongoing custody arrangements.

The actress' estranged father Michael showed up to a Long Island courthouse this morning and was surrounded by TV crews and reporters. He called a report about his 13-year-old daughter Ali blaming him for Lindsay's problems "nonsense."

The Lohans appeared in court in June and were ordered to start family therapy. Dina was ordered to arrange for more phone conversations between her youngest kids Ali and Dakota, 11. Michael, the kids' father, was recently released from prison after serving time for drunken driving and attempted assault.

Meanwhile, Lindsay 21, continues her downward spiral; she was arrested in Santa Monica, Calif. on Tuesday for driving under the influence and possession of cocaine. Having just left a Malibu rehab center, the arrest counts as her second drunken-driving arrest in three months.

This kid needs more rehab and more therapy. And, let's just say, more parental support.

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First Wives World has a terrific column featured on About.com's Guide to Divorce Support. The Guide's coordinator, Cathy Meyer, graciously asked our own Debbie Nigro to write a guest column for a series she's running this week on "Moving On."

Well, guess what? No one has more experience with movin' on and movin' up than Debbie, who has successfully reinvented her personal and professional life, post-divorce, with incredible energy and verve. She's resilient, and so are you!

In fact, that's the message of her piece on About called "A Formula For Getting Back to Great." It's all about women being in control of their destiny and plodding ahead, putting one foot in front of the other to embrace the present and, of course, the future.

Cathy and her team of experts are providing valuable information and resources that can help get you through. In fact, About has everything from chat rooms where you can swap ideas and information, to advice columns on dating, legal and financial issues and tips on how to deal with your kids in a divorce. They've got everything!

So check it out...but stay tuned to FirstWivesWorld.com because we're on the cusp of some exciting plans that will help you navigate divorce no matter what stage you're in--in fact, we're going to get you through each phase not only with useful resources and support from other women, but you'll be there with a smile on your face because we've got some fun, new shows that will entertain and tickle you as you discover that your best self lies ahead...

Yes, stay tuned. We can't wait...! And, check out Debbie's column here.