Here at First Wives World, we've seen many women struggling with the fact that their ex-husband is not more involved with the kids. Trying to balance work life and home life with children is never easy, and it is very tempting to wish there was another person involved to help relieve the pressure. But have we really stopped to think about what that means?

In this article on Mom Logic, one woman talks about the issues with her custodial plan. I assume that she and her ex live in the same city and therefore her children are able to attend the same school from either parent's house, but here's what the court set up: Mondays through Wednesdays with one parent, Wednesday evening through Saturday morning with the other parent, with weekends alternating between parents. As the author says, "Essentially, the children are being shuttled back and forth every two to three days." Because she's afraid of how the stress of constantly relocating is affecting her kids, she says she lets them get away with more than she used to.

She and her ex don't get along well, and there's a huge communication gap between the two of them. With her children spending so much time there, she feels she is missing out. "No stories about new milestones that I'm missing or life's lessons that the children are learning, no tales of how these beautiful little people are growing or changing when I'm not with them. He has no interest in sharing any of it."

How to raise their children has also become a problem. She doesn't know what he's teaching them when they're with him. She doesn't know if he's respecting the boundaries and controls that she uses with her kids, and she has no control over who the children come into contact with. If he has a new girlfriend, she can only hope that this person is loving and will respect her kids.

Having a father who wants to be active in his childrens' lives is generally a good thing, and should be encouraged. But that's not to say that it doesn't come with its own set of problems. Add to this an ex who is uncommunicative, and you really do start to wonder if the children are actually better off.