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What can we learn from serial celebrity break-ups, billionaire bust-ups, misbehaving spouses, pants-on challenged politicos and the ever-shifting landscape of divorce law? Question is, "What CAN'T we learn"? With latte in hand and clicky finger at the ready, dive in for the best in divorce news, views, gossip, and buzz – assembled below for your reading pleasure.

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Actor Ryan Philippe's Post-Split Funk

Posted by Donna Carlisle on Wed, 02/13/2008 - 10:00am

You'd think that being a handsome, accomplished actor with legions of women who ogle and adore you from afar might be enough to bring some men out of the post-split funk.

For Ryan Philippe, that knowledge didn't help him in the slightest.

He's said after his divorce from Reese Witherspoon, there were "four or five months of not being able to get out of bed". He also calls it the "darkest, saddest time of my life".

It certainly shows how devastating divorce can be not just for women, but for men as well.

Nowadays Philippe has managed to recover some. He has a new film out, entitled Stop-Loss, and he calls the divorce recuperation a process, saying he "gets less and less sad about it every day".

Neither he nor Reese have said publicly why they divorced. All he said about it was the reason was "far more complicated and far less interesting" than what people have speculated.

A likely reason was simply the pull of their careers and the time spent apart while shooting movies. Some have said it has to do with Ryan's interest in his Stop-Loss costar Abbie Cornish, but Ryan has denied that on several occasions. He is rumored to be dating Cornish, however. Reese is currently dating Jake Gyllenhall.

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The Crash We All Saw Cominig

Posted by Donna Carlisle on Tue, 02/05/2008 - 10:00am

It finally happened. Britney Spears has hit rock bottom. Well, by Hollywood standards anyway.

This weekend saw Ms Spears very publicly taken to the psych ward at UCLA Medical Center, and things really haven't improved much since the initial three day observation have elapsed. In fact, they've ordered her to stay another two weeks. Like everyone's been saying, it's fairly obvious she's a little crazy.

Her father and one of her attorneys have been named as conservators through Valentine's Day. The conservators were appointed after there was much debate over who could make decisions regarding her health, resulting in a battle between Brit's parents, Brit herself, and Brit's manager Sam Lufti.

Lufti currently has a restraining order on him that mandates he neither call nor visit the pop singer.

There were some hearings yesterday to determine whether Britney could have some supervised visitation with her kids in a "therapeutic setting". Since her current setting is a psych ward, the motion was put on hold for the time being. A court appointed lawyer also visited with Spears and reported to the Commissioner that she was not competent enough to grasp the nature of the current legal proceedings or the effect they could have on her life.

Painful as this all is to see, and somewhat sickening in the detail it's being covered, it is good that she's finally getting the help she needs. Let's hope those in charge of her well being really do have that in mind this time around.

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Patience Is A Virtue

Posted by Donna Carlisle on Tue, 12/11/2007 - 1:00pm

...One that Paul McCartney claims his ongoing divorce has taught him. He was asked in an interview what he had learned in 2007, and he responded sarcastically "Algebra? B Minor?" but then acknowledged that the low point has been the divorce and said patience was required to deal with the rigmarole.

It's had an effect on his music as well, though don't expect any vitriolic rants about evil one-legged devil women on his new album. He says that his tunes have become more optimistic in order to counter the negativity, and that "I'm not so good at angst-ridden songs. My natural optimism tends to take over."

Given the year he's had and the constant stream of negativity coming from Heather Mills' corner, it's remarkable that he doesn't let loose on her. She's wasting no time on niceties with him or his new squeeze, however. Mills was apparently furious after learning that Paul introduced their daughter Beatrice to his girlfriend, Rosanna Arquette, and reportedly called her a Z-lister.

Of course, that didn't stop her from asking Paul to have Christmas together as a family, but he declined. Apparently Mills' recent attacks on him in the press have him a bit gunshy about having her around for the festive day, and he is afraid she'll make a scene. He will have their daughter on Christmas day, however, so Mills will be left to celebrate with the person she loves best, herself! Perhaps her publicist as well...

A few weeks ago I reported on Ryan Philippe and Reese Witherspoon's divorce being finalized. Recently he talked to a magazine about the split, and it offers an interesting insight into how much divorce affects both men and women.

Remember, this guy is a Hollywood star with millions of dollars who seemed to go through a fairly amicable split — no disputes over money or child custody. He admits to having suicidal thoughts after the divorce was final. Describing himself as a "physical wreck," he said he wasn't taking care of himself at all, he'd wake up crying and vomiting, and he wanted to die.

Pretty powerful, really, that he'd even admit that. It doesn't seem that men are as apt to share their grief, which is perhaps why there is this prevailing view that men aren't as affected by divorce as women.

In the rest of the interview he goes on to talk about his kids and career, saying that having children has made him a better actor. How so you might ask? Well, he can now cry on command. He says that having kids has made his life "fuller and more complicated", and he's experienced many highs and lows.

At least he's mindful of the changes kids can make in you if you let them. I'm encouraged by men like this stepping out — soon people will realize divorce is a painful process for everyone involved.

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I'm sure many women have had this experience. The dreaded divorce talk. Having to tell family and friends what happened, being asked how it happened, the endless questions and mix of emotions.

Now imagine having to explain all that to an entire nation of people, and by extent, the world. Imagine reading in the paper your intimate details, or those rumors that take the place of actual fact.

Cécelia Sarkozy has done her best to prevent any sort of rumor by sitting down for an interview on that very subject; her life with Nicolas Sarkozy, the reason for their breakup, and why she seemed so invisible during the first months of his presidency. (Read Samantha Louis' piece on Nicolas Sarkozy's recent interview here.)

When asked if her husband's election was like accomplishing a mission, she immediately answers no, it wasn't her mission. She helped her husband and struggled along beside him to help his goals come to fruition, but as she says "I worked at his side, but I wasn't elected and I didn't want to be elected.".

Perhaps her most touching answer is in response to a query about what led her to this decision. She says that she just didn't fit anymore, and that her husband and her tried everything to make their marriage work, but it was just impossible.

I think many women the world over can relate and sympathize with those feelings.

She speaks of a desire to live out of the spotlight, and how she suffered when seeing her private life splashed about and analyzed. It may seem odd for a former model to shun attention, but models are rarely subjected to the in-depth probing and constant chatter that political figures deal with on a daily basis.

Cecelia's plans now are simply to focus on her family, and she talks of this ending as a new beginning. Her only wish is that she not be constrained by her past.

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Divorce seemingly isn't any easier for religious folk. In Thomas Weeks' case, it could be career-ending.

Juanita Bynum, Bishop Weeks' estranged wife, has been making public appearances discussing the reasons for leaving her marriage, which began in 2002 after a lavish wedding, and ended in August with Bynum accusing her husband of beating her in a parking lot. She now claims to be the "new face of domestic violence."

Bishop Weeks has been selling DVDs of the couple's ministry products at a reduced rate in order to generate funds. He denies ever beating his estranged spouse and could possibly sue her for loss of earnings since her claims could apparently damage his earning potential.

His attorney states that he is well within his rights to sell the DVDs, and if it's Bynum's intent to harm Weeks' business, he could ask for alimony before everything is said and done, though he has yet to do so.

And we wonder why greed is one of the seven deadly sins.

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