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Separate But Happy

Do two people in love have to always be together?

Posted to by Naomi Dunne on Fri, 06/17/2011 - 7:38am

Because I’ve been known to have a one-track mind, I’m still thinking about what I wrote about last week: Should some people just stay single?

My partner and I have been talking about this a lot lately. We are two of the most compatible people I’ve ever known. We live together. We run a business together. We work in our home office together.

And we are completely and utterly sick of each other. Actually, that’s not entirely true. We’re not sick of each other, we’re sick of not being alone.

Here’s the thing: We’re both very independent people. We’re both people pleasers. We both go out of our way to make the other person desperately, completely, ragingly happy. It’s exhausting, and I don’t think we want to do it any more.

We want to eat what we want for dinner. We want to stop discussing the color of paint on the walls. We want to stop planning and talking and communicating. We both just want to be left alone.

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Learning To Co-Parent A Business With Your Ex-Husband

Posted to by Amanda Lockhart on Tue, 01/25/2011 - 11:14am

Divorce is hard enough when it's just between two people. It's even more complicated when there are children involved. But what happens if you and your soon-to-be ex own a business together?

I saw that question posed in a tax advice column the other day, and the answer provided something valuable, beyond the simple X's and O's of how the assets are shared.

Sure, there was the standard discussion of the tax implications — the issues to consider if you or your ex wants to sell off your share of the business, or if both of you want to sell. But then there's the other possibility: Nobody sells anything and the two of you continue to operate the business together. And that's the part of this that I found most interesting.

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Can You Learn To Get It Right The Second Time?

Second marriage 101

Posted to by Amanda Lockhart on Sat, 10/30/2010 - 11:00am

I read an interesting piece recently about classes aimed at couples who are remarrying.

The gist is that most divorced people — even the ones who might have participated in marriage-preparation counseling the first time around — don't avail themselves of that help as they head into a second marriage. Since remarriages end in divorce at a higher rate than first marriages, it seems like second marriage classes might be a good idea.

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Al and Tipper Gore Separating: How Does Any Marriage Last A Lifetime?

Posted to by Jill Brooke on Wed, 06/02/2010 - 2:26pm

Al and Tipper Gore’s surprise separation announcement has exposed “An Inconvenient Truth.”  In today’s environment, it’s very hard to keep a marriage together for a lifetime.

There doesn’t seem to be much support encouraging the continuity of marriage if you take the temperature of commentators. The New York Times had someone call divorce an iconic baby boomer event.

On one of the morning TV shows, their so-called experts said that it doesn’t matter that Al and Tipper may be divorced since the kids are now older. Hmmm. With rationed time, it now means that elderly parents see their adult kids half as much for holidays and get togethers and adult kids have to choose between parents.

Ironically, the announcement was made at the peak of wedding season when couples will walk down the aisle making the commitment to love each other through thick and thin, sickness and health, richer or poorer.

As one reader wrote, “When young couples see that the Gores (and many others) can't quite make it work, what hope is left for them?"

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2008: The Year in Divorce

Posted to by First Wives World on Thu, 12/25/2008 - 12:34am

The splits. The fits. The emotional pits. And all the couples who called it quits.

This past year had it all. Some stories touched us, others moved us, many angered us, and a few even tickled us.

After much culling and sifting, we narrowed it down to 20 of our top picks from 2008. We hope you enjoy this little look back as we prepare to move forward.

The Let’s-Just-Be-Friends Award
(Most Amicable Divorce)

Robin Williams and Marsha Garces Williams

Talk about civil unions. No sooner had the couple announced their split after 19 years of marriage than they signed an official agreement stating "we commit ourselves to the collaborative divorce process and agree to seek a positive way to resolve our differences justly and equitably” — all for the sake of their two children. For those of you playing along at home, this is the way to go.

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Sarah Palin and the He-Dude

Posted to by Jill Brooke on Mon, 10/06/2008 - 6:32pm

With the confidence of a captain of the girls' basketball team, Sarah Palin swished her way into the office of Mayor of Wasilla, Alaska, took a jump shot at being Governor of Alaska, and then slam dunked the nomination for the Republican vice presidency.

Along the way, she’s accomplished a feat that often sidelines powerful women. Throughout her impressive career, she has never made her husband look diminished.

How she has dribbled her way around this challenging issue is a subject truly worthy of debate. After all, studies in Social Forces and The Journal of Marriage and Family say that women who are more successful than their husbands have higher divorce rates.

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Divorce Fallout Shadows Palin’s Campaign

Posted to by Jill Brooke on Fri, 10/03/2008 - 7:50pm

Gov. Sarah Palin may be not be getting a wink of sleep now that an Alaska state judge allowed a probe to go forward into whether she abused her power. The Republican vice presidential nominee is under fire for pressuring Public Safety Commissioner Walt Monegan to fire her ex brother-in-law, a state trooper.

The charges are that pressure to fire the trooper came from the Governor herself, her husband, Todd, and her staff. After Monegan did not agree, she fired him, citing disagreement over budget cuts.

And to her, that's a heck of a good reason and why should it be questioned otherwise?

On Thursday Judge Peter Michalski threw out the lawsuit filed by five Republican state legislators who claimed that Palin was the victim of an unfair partisan probe. The Republicans appear to be worried that a damaging report may surface before Election Day and affect voters. Or at least the kind of voters who vote based on performance.

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