Now here's something smart: If a man keeps on having sex with his wife, he can't get a divorce.

So says Additional District Judge (ADJ) Atul Kumar Garg of New Delhi, India, in a recent ruling after a man sought separation from his wife for cruelty (she refused to carry out household chores) and misdemeanor.

I'm right behind the judge on this one.

We often hear of a man or woman complaining about their spouse, yet the fun in the bedroom still seems to be going on. If two people truly can't get along in a relationship, one would assume that there's no need to continue the affairs between the sheets.

Garg agrees. "Continuous cohabitation with the wife shall amount to condonation of the act of cruelty complained of and condonation in matrimonial cases means complete forgiveness of the act,"stated ADJ Garg when he laid down his ruling.

The act of divorce should be representative about two people who have no love or desire to live with each other. They shouldn't get along. They shouldn't be sharing intimate moments. It just doesn't make sense.

Jasbir Singh is the plaintiff requesting the divorce, and this is his second attempt to have the divorce approved by a court of law. He'd requested a divorce previously in 2003 — that didn't work, but obviously the relations between Singh and his spouse still did.

Now, five years later, Singh has had his divorce petition turned down again. Shall we all stay tuned for round three?

Perhaps the next time he seeks official separation, Singh will put chances on his side and stay away from temptation. It might help his credibility a touch.

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Marsha Garces Williams has filed for divorce from her husband of 18 years, citing irreconcilable differences.

The two met while Marsha nannied Robin's son with his first wife, Valerie. She then served as his personal assistant...then, uh, wife. Seriously, though, Marsha partnered with her husband professionally on several projects, producing Mrs. Doubtfire, Patch Adams, and Jakob the Liar.

The two also forged a nonprofit arts foundation alongside individual philanthropic endeavors.

Just watching this guy makes me tired. Imagine trying to keep up with him? I wouldn't have made it 18 days, let alone 18 years.

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Researchers say that the divorce rate for people in their 50's, 60's, and even 70's are increasing at an almost rapid rate and are dubbing these divorces, the "gray divorce" — as opposed to the silver anniversary.

And just when you thought that once you got over that 30-years-of-marriage hurdle you were in the clear. I don't know, I'd still be pretty hard pressed to imagine my grandmother and grandfather calling it quits after so many years of putting up with each other. Why would they?

One researcher suggests that as our life expectancy increases, there are more years to think of "putting up" in an unhappy marriage.

Divorce and family law attorney Carol Lindsay suggests that as a person ages there is a "vague longing." "Mortality is calling," she says, and sometimes people will feel a sense that they've missed out on something and try to make it up.

She does note that these "gray divorces" are sometimes nicer, as older couples will sometimes show "more maturity" and be "graceful" in the way they handle their divorce. Also, rarely are there the gut-wrenching, bitter, custody battles that are so common when younger couples divorce.

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The Ohio Supreme Court has suspended the license of Karl Williamson after discovering he was involved in a sexual relationship with his female client, according to the Cincinnati Enquirer.

The client, whose name has been withheld, filed for divorce from her husband in 2004, and Williamson began serving as her lawyer in May of that year. Within a month, however, the client and her two children had moved in with Williamson—apparently not for the sole purpose of cutting down on legal costs.

"By engaging in an affair with his client and continuing to represent her, (Williamson) risked his client's legal and personal interests for his own advantage," the court said Thursday.

The Star Ledger is reporting that a former aide to ex-governor says he repeatedly had sex with the McGreeveys.

Yes, that's plural "McGreeveys," as in a little three-way action with Jim and Dina. Whoops!

Twenty nine-year-old Theodore Pedersen says Mrs. McGreevey was more than aware of her husband's homosexuality and was in "complete control" of their three-way relationship.

Pedersen says the trysts started in 1999 but stopped when McGreevey was elected governor in 2001.

Three ways? Hmmmm...Would a governor-in-training and his wife be careless enough to engage in such come-back-to-haunt-you behavior?

Then again, we know another gov who (foolishly) thought his skeletons would remain safely locked in the closet.

If the McGreeveys did partake in a menage a trois with young Theodore, they had to have seen this coming.

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The Huffington Post explores the pros and cons of "standing by your man" (I have a feeling we're going to see this phrase quite a bit in the coming weeks...) and attempts to determine whether infidelity is grounds for divorce.

Turns out, 35 percent of marriages survive a cheating spouse. Actually, the direct quote is, "only 35 percent of marriages survive..." Really? HuffPo believes this to be a small percentage? That sounds like far too many women who forgive and forget.

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I opened my front door this morning and was immediately confronted by the newspaper with a headline that screamed "Eliot Mess — Spitzer liaison with prostitute caught on wiretap" with this picture below it.

I can think of quite a few things to say about my feelings on his affair, but for now, I think the papers are covering that quite well. What nobody seems to focus on is his poor wife, Silda. I looked at that photo of her today, and my heart broke. She looks so sad.

Can you imagine for a second how humiliating it must be to be the wife of the Governor that just got busted for prostitution? Talk about no privacy.

I suppose that if she wants someone to talk to, someone who could truly understand her position, she has several options. Starting with Hilliary Clinton. We all remember what she went through with Bill, Monica, and the infamous blue dress.

Then there's Wendy Vitter, wife of David Vitter, a senator in Louisiana, who interestingly enough, had this to say when asked if she would be as forgiving as Hillary were her husband caught having an affair: "I'm a lot more like Lorena Bobbitt than Hillary, if he does something like that, I'm walking away with one thing, and it's not alimony, trust me." Lucky for David, it seems she changed her mind.

And let's not forget Dina McGreevy, wife of New Jersey Governor James McGreevy, who resigned from his position after announcing that he is gay and was having an affair. They are getting divorced.

It seems that these type of affairs have happened all throughout history, but it also seems that things aren't quite what they used to be, in that people are not as forgiving or as quick to turn their heads.

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Forget about those Santa Ana winds. Oscar's embers blew directly into Ann Blanchard's house Tuesday night as Hollywood honchos, TV execs, first and second wives, along with various and sundry well-wishers gathered for a reading of Mimi Schmir's fictional and hilarious "Hot Flashes" blog...

The confab, masterminded by the former William Morris überagent who's now with Mosaic Media, drew Hollywood's finest TV and film actresses who read selections from the blog which chronicles the rollercoaster antics of Schmir's heroine, Esme, a late 40s-ish divorced mother of two. While I wasn't in Ann's parlor experiencing the "Hot Flashes," faux and for-real, firstwivesworld.com's intrepid correspondent reports the evening was a scorcher. Yes, HOT or you know, HOT!

Actresses Amy Brenneman ("Private Practice" and "Judging Amy"); Dana Delany ("Desperate Housewives"); Kathyrn Morris ("Cold Case"); and Natasha Henstridge ("Commander-in-Chief") each morphed into Esme as they read portions of the edgy blog that began on firstwivesworld.com. And they say there aren't any good parts for women?? Huh?!

Schmir, a writer for TV hits "Grey's Anatomy" and "Shark," was feted for her fiesty and comedic portrayal of the daily exploits of a pre-menopausal late 40s mom who's trying to move on with her life after a divorce in which her husband leaves her for a younger model (surprise, surprise). "Hot Flashes" just may be the next "Starter Wife" but there's a difference: "Hot Flashes" started on firstwivesworld.com, yes, the Web baby, and is destined for episodic television.

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"Me & You, Us Forever," is an indie film about a love story that was 30 years in the making. It's the story of Dave, a 47-year-old Christian man, who's on the unwanted end of a divorce.

The movie follows Dave through the process of his painful divorce and his dive back into the dating scene. Unsure of how to get back out there, he finds himself longing to see his first love, Mary, who he hasn't seen in 30 years.

Against the advice of his co-workers and much to the chagrin of his potential girlfriend Carla, who he met at a Christian Divorce Recovery Group, Dave goes see Mary who's now married with children and living in New York. Dave and Mary fell in love as high school sweethearts and he's always wondered what happened to her.

The film is set in 2004 and flashes back to 1974. The viewer sees the relationship through Dave's eyes and how things ended with Mary.

I think anytime that we've had love and lost it — through any circumstances — it always creates a potential for us to go back and examine all of our past relationships, as well as the current one. Although I haven't seen it, I think this movie appears to offer an excellent portrayal of process in which we re-examine previous relationships, perhaps measuring them against our current one.

To read more about "Me & You, Us, Forever," you can visit the film's Website. You can view the trailer here. The film's writer, director and producer, Dave Christiano sums it up beautifully by saying "I believe we have a strong message and one that will help people. Everyone knows someone that's divorced, so I think this film will touch a lot of people."

 

It's a relationship that seemed destined for a courtroom eventually. After two years, and nearly a year of speculation that the marriage had hit the skids, singer Pink and motocross star Carey Hart are divorcing.

The two met in 2001 and married in 2006 in Costa Rica. A publicist for Pink simply said the pair had separated and "While the marriage is over, their friendship has never been stronger".

Yeah, everyone says they want to stay friends right after a breakup.

Rumors had been swirling about the marriage being on the rocks, probably mainly due to the couple rarely being seen in public together. Last August, Hart dismissed all the rumors as "just a bunch of trash talk".

It seems that it was their separate careers that perpetrated the split. Pink is working on a new album and will be returning to the studio soon, and Hart has been opening new nightclubs, the first of which is scheduled to open in May at the Hard Rock Hotel in Las Vegas.

It would be nice to see the pair remain friends, but let's face it, nothing sours normally amicable people like divorce proceedings.

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