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You too?

Guest — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 11:56:44 -0500

I'm sitting here typing with swollen fingers, my face is puffy and my slender ankles have all but vanished. I doubled up on vitamin B-6 day before yesterday with no positive results. Today I'll make a trip to the store for sweet potatoes...without the yams! Good luck in the battle of the bloat. Cathy Meyer

This is an interesting

Guest — Thu, 27 Nov 2008 21:27:11 -0500

This is an interesting article. Are the results race-specific though. The author mentioned that the study was done on mostly White children. Would there correspondingly be a difference in the cortisol levels of say, Hispanic children or Asian children of divorce? Is there a difference in the ways the parents fight, for example that has something to do with race? What about Black children? How do they fare? As a former teacher turned divorce attorney in New York II would be interested in a more multi-cultural study that reflects the multi-cultural population since more and more children of all races are facing divorce, and this impacts the way they actually behave in a school setting. by Marion TD Lewis, Esq. New York a New York Divorce attorney: http://www.marionlewisesq.blogspot.com

Arguing makes your kid fat and unhealthy?

Guest — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 16:35:58 -0500

Wow, who knew arguing would create so many problems? Cortisol is related to weight gain (and not the muscular kind) and heart attacks. This is very good information. Thanks for sharing.

divorced women percs...........

new galaxy — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 10:43:01 -0500

BE REALISTIC..............he's a man, ................

re: get a grip

Guest — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 23:56:45 -0500

my balls are fine, it's my heart that's been squashed. ;-)

memo to jeff: get a grip

Guest — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 21:56:41 -0500

if i've learned one thing, it's that when people give "advice" about other people's marriage, it's a mirror. jeff, what you're saying has nothing to do with megan and everything to do with how you see yourself in your own relationships: emasculated, for starters. get a grip, and go pick on someone else. yourself, perhaps.

You probably didn't intend

Guest — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 10:09:39 -0500

You probably didn't intend for this to be a humor piece, but it is. Only because for anyone who has been right where you are, can so relate, and laughing is so much easier, not to mention more legal, than murder. Jane

You do have a choice

Guest — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 12:42:33 -0500

Megan,<\p> Seems to me that you are in complete control over the major stressor in your marriage. You have two pre-school children and a husband who travels a lot for work and provides a good income. Yet you have chosen to pursue a demanding writing career that has you working late at night and frequently stressed (back pain?) and exhausted by deadlines. You have chosen to put your husband dead last behind career, kids, friends, volunteer work, etc., and are somehow surprised, hurt and resentful that you are not #1 in his eyes. If you want to rescue this marriage, drop the writing until both kids are in school, and work at convincing your husband that he is #1. Your call.

jeffb <\p>

Realize you deserve pleasure

Guest — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 07:47:52 -0500

and you should have as much as possible in your life. Get your energy flowing by exercising and feeling good about yourself and then start wearing sexier underwear just for yourself and start owning your sexual energy again. You need to get your confidence about yourself back and then decide which lucky partner deserves you. Go for it.

Is he a different man or is the situation different?

Guest — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 19:16:39 -0500

You didn't have children when you were 25. Neither one of you had the responsibilities you have now when you were 25. Maybe he has a lot on his mind...work, children, an unhappy wife. Maybe if you stop expecting him to act like a 25 year old in the throws of passion and lust, your marriage might have a chance. If you wanted his pillow to relieve your pain you should have ask for his pillow. He surely wouldn't have turned you down. Saying that you should get a pillow like his and then him failing to read your mind and hand over the pillow is not a problem with him. It is a problem with you. If you want something, ask for it. It is that simple Megan. Cathy Meyer

don't listen to them

Guest — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 14:52:04 -0500

You seem to have a couple of choices; accept your husband as he is (accept and tolerate are different) or leave him and see what happens. From my personal experience it is impossible to get over such resentment while living under the same roof. You both need some time and space away to see what happens. Leave while there is still the option to reconcile if you think that is possible instead of waiting until you are so fed up you leave and close that possibility because you have moved so far away from him and there is even more damage between you. Sounds like you both need to miss each other a bit before you can come up on the other side of this. I know how hard it is to make these decisions with kids so I don't offer this advice lightly like others seem to do my telling you to dump him and move on. Have these people been divorced or are they just here for amusement?

Whine

Guest — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 12:47:59 -0500

Why don't you just quit whining and leave him already ? Do you enjoy being miserable?

I told you...

Guest — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 12:28:41 -0400

I told Edgar more than once that I'd be unable to continue living with him if he continued drinking. We don't cause this problem and we can't control it. What we can control is ourselves. So I told Ed what would happen. He chose first not to believe me, then to take my words as a threat. It took a while, but eventually I made a plan to put him out and acted on it. It was kind of like having an out-of-body experience, to stand up for myself that way, but it was what I needed and deserved. I'd suggest focusing on what you need and deserve and start planning to get it. You can do this. --sondra

divorced women vote for Obama!

Guest — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 17:16:48 -0400

clearly there is no question most women are pro Obama! Go Oby!~

Criminals will always have weapons

Guest — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 10:30:41 -0400

I disagree with part of Rosie's comment and assumption. People like Barfour will always be able to find weapons. A steak knife, poison, an electric chord, or any heavy object can and have all been used by intimate partners to perpetrate violent crimes against woman. I believe the true question and solution actually lies in developing self esteem in woman and in supporting the family unit. Perhaps, if woman were taught to recognized traits in people that were unsafe, and then chose not to pursue a relationship with that person because they recognized that they were valuable and deserved better, then many of these situations might never develop. And if families were given the tools to help troubled youth receive the intervention and support, (such as counseling and/or classes for parents and students throughout elementary and high school years, ) to develop the social and relational skills they need to successfully navigate adult life, you have to wonder how many would still resort to a life of crime or violence.