http://www.firstwivesworld.com/summary/all/stages/mind-and-spirit Comments for "Mind and Spirit" en http://www.firstwivesworld.com/community/house-bloggers/megan-thomas/making-a-connection#comment-6645 When your husband threatened suicide, you lost respect for him and no wonder. You feel trapped by his manipulation and his weakness. Why should you reconnect under those circumstances? Respect once lost is not easily regained. Mon, 01 Dec 2008 00:33:03 -0500 Guest comment 6645 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com http://www.firstwivesworld.com/community/house-bloggers/megan-thomas/when-the-marriage-stable-its-hard-leave#comment-6644 I really relate to what you are saying because most of the time we live parallel lives that seem more tolerable than jumping free in the middle of an economic downturn. My husband actually has nasty bouts- he smashed up his laptop last week because he was too impatient to wait for technical support- and he is out of work. But we have a roof over our heads in a recession, our joint income can support us in place here but probably not in two places, and this is no time to sell the house and move apart. I want to wait out the economy, but that supposes it won't drag for another ten years. (I should say I am older and my assets are tied up in his retirement and the house, so it isn't as if our children are young.) I never planned to settle and I am tired of waiting for his therapy to kick in, but I feel stuck here. Spoke with another woman with a bipolar husband and she said it was good that he kicked her out because she would have tried to work things through and they woudn't have worked out. I can understand that. But absent that kind of situation it seems hard to go from stability to danger. Sun, 30 Nov 2008 23:53:30 -0500 Guest comment 6644 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com http://www.firstwivesworld.com/community/house-bloggers/redefining-divorce-redefining-my-life#comment-6642 I am so very proud of you! You have been through more than anyone knows and still you have your optimism, not always, but you do always work through it and end up being a blessing to somebody else. I am excited to all the doors that will be opened to your new chapters in life. I am proud to tell people that you are my sister. Love you Colleen Sun, 30 Nov 2008 20:08:48 -0500 Guest comment 6642 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com http://www.firstwivesworld.com/community/house-bloggers/the-turkey-tour-a-daughter-gratefully-makes-the-rounds#comment-6641 Alexis~ Happy Birthday and kudos to all of your parents for raising such a seemingly level-headed and optimistic woman! And, on behalf of every woman (and man) who has agonized over divorcing or separating with young kids for fear it will "ruin them" thanks for reminding all of us that no child who is healthy and loved is ruined by not having two biological parents in one home. Well done! ~elaina Sun, 30 Nov 2008 14:07:45 -0500 Guest comment 6641 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com http://www.firstwivesworld.com/community/house-bloggers/faith-eggers/a-day-gratitude-and-appreciation-even-my-ex#comment-6639 I suspect in a few weeks when I look at my newborn I'll feel a similar gratitude. My soon-to-be-ex gave me a son to share my journey with. Happy Thanksgiving Faith. -Antigone Sun, 30 Nov 2008 13:41:36 -0500 Guest comment 6639 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com http://www.firstwivesworld.com/resource/resource-articles/cathy-meyer/when-your-ex-a-turkey-what-say-your-kids#comment-6637 Tongue biting, another thing to add to our list of motherly duties. Also another thing our children will love and respect us far down the road. In the end that is all that matters isn't it? Cathy Meyer Sun, 30 Nov 2008 12:03:59 -0500 Guest comment 6637 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com http://www.firstwivesworld.com/community/house-bloggers/elaina-goodman/in-praise-single-parenting-why-i-prefer-it#comment-6634 love. Sun, 30 Nov 2008 09:35:12 -0500 Guest comment 6634 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com http://www.firstwivesworld.com/community/house-bloggers/elaina-goodman/libra-seeks-serenity-balance#comment-6633 Nobody does. Nobody. At least not for more than a few hours at a time. Sun, 30 Nov 2008 09:33:18 -0500 Guest comment 6633 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com http://www.firstwivesworld.com/community/house-bloggers/faith-eggers/a-day-gratitude-and-appreciation-even-my-ex#comment-6628 You are one strong and corageous woman Faith and I am delighted to have stood by watching you and your little boy grow so beautifully. You owe yourself a debt of gratitude too my dear!! Love CS Sat, 29 Nov 2008 11:05:43 -0500 Guest comment 6628 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com http://www.firstwivesworld.com/community/house-bloggers/the-turkey-tour-a-daughter-gratefully-makes-the-rounds#comment-6626 What a special, beautiful woman you have become. Happy Birthday! Fri, 28 Nov 2008 11:56:59 -0500 Guest comment 6626 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com http://www.firstwivesworld.com/community/house-bloggers/the-turkey-tour-a-daughter-gratefully-makes-the-rounds#comment-6617 Alexis: What a great girl you seem to be....to look at your life as being one filled with people who love you versus being negative about having to be flexible. Your parents certainly raised you well. Be sure to share you thoughts and outlook with others you come in contact with. Wed, 26 Nov 2008 14:56:53 -0500 Guest comment 6617 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com http://www.firstwivesworld.com/resource/resource-articles/cathy-meyer/when-your-ex-a-turkey-what-say-your-kids#comment-6616 Tongue biting, it seems to be a by-product of divorce. Divorce; in some cases it ends one kind of conflict and begins another. Wed, 26 Nov 2008 10:48:17 -0500 Guest comment 6616 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com http://www.firstwivesworld.com/resource/resource-articles/jill-brooke/how-put-the-give-thanksgiving#comment-6612 I love this 'Her'story lesson! Fact of the matter is - GRATITUDE is a way of life. We need to remember these lessons of courage, giving and friendship everyday. The whole world is suffering right now. The divorced women on this site are among the strongest, and most generous people I've met anywhere... Wonderful and happy Thanksgiving!!! Tue, 25 Nov 2008 21:10:19 -0500 Joy Rose comment 6612 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com http://www.firstwivesworld.com/resource/resource-articles/cathy-meyer/when-your-ex-a-turkey-what-say-your-kids#comment-6610 I have to bite my tongue all the time, not just during holidays. Its hard. It may be even harder than the divorce itself Tue, 25 Nov 2008 15:58:28 -0500 Guest comment 6610 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com http://www.firstwivesworld.com/community/house-bloggers/redefining-divorce-redefining-my-life#comment-6609 I'm excited for you and your discovery! I know that your finished product will be a MUST read, that your posterity will enjoy hearing, and that God will never put down. Tue, 25 Nov 2008 14:45:03 -0500 Guest comment 6609 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com