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no money

Guest — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 02:38:57 -0400

I've spent 3 years trying to make ends meet because my husband has his own money that is not mine. My daughter and I didn't qualify for programs because I am still married; however, he is a job jumper so no ins. We used up every penny of my retirement and savings and I have zero in the bank unless he decides to be nice and give some. I am on disability because of anxiety and depression - go figure. Divorce in ND is $2500 down and I have -$200 in the bank. We could work it out for $600 total but he'll never give me anything. Isn't there someplace that gets women out of these situations before they lose their sanity????

So, where do you think this is going?

Guest — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 18:56:23 -0400

How do you handle this for the future? You've set up a pattern of your relationship. Now, how do you break it?

divorce siblings

Guest — Sat, 23 Aug 2008 13:45:46 -0400

As I've mentioned on my blog grammology.com it's imperative families bond together it's not blood it's the actions of the parents and siblings. I come from an extended family and we all work very hard to stay together. We are successful because it takes planning and energy. The end result I have family who would do anything anytime I needed it. And the same to them. Let's pray there are more of us and bond together to make it different for our newly divorced families. For and too the benefit of our future leaders (our children) who we love unconditionally...great article for us to ponder and lament... Dorothy from grammology https://gramology.com

When Pets Have to go

Guest — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 19:22:02 -0400

Wait... you've misread it. She's not saying she doesn't feed her dogs. She's saying they still love her BETWEEN MEALS. I understand that. I suspect this is someone who would feed her animals before she fed herself.

You Horrify Me

Guest — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 15:16:00 -0400

What kind of responsible adult are you? If you cannot afford to feed your dogs, you are unfit to be an owner. Try proofreading, driving a taxi, packing groceries to make extra money. How do you know they love you? They can't talk. I can talk. They dont love you.

"The conclusion I came up

Guest — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 13:55:52 -0400

"The conclusion I came up with is that its really all about...me. I'm angry with them because of the way they treated me." What kind of nonsense is this? "The snake hissed at me. The snake bit me. The snake poisoned me. See a lot of "me" in there? That's 'cause it's all about me and not the poisonous snake that bit me. It's not fair to the snake that I prevent it from biting my son. Oh, and by the way, it's not sufficient that I let the snake come to him; I should bring him to the snake" Get a grip.

Oops, forgot to click

Guest — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 18:03:43 -0400

Oops, forgot to click "paste," should have had this, prior to my comment: "Sam says I'm more stressed about it than he is."

Aye, and therein lies the

Guest — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 18:02:58 -0400

Aye, and therein lies the RUB! RBYS

don't do it...

Guest — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 13:45:57 -0400

because I have been there and you really in the end will feel crappy about not being a better person and even if you find someone to deal with you in the midst of what you will be going through if you do leave, in the end you will likely resent their needs (and they will likely resent yours) at a time when all you can do is meet your own crazy needs. i'm not going to make a judement about what is right or wrong. you don't seem to have a good idea of what a divorce does to you even if you initiate it. you will be lost and a relationship will not make it all better.

Ditto that last commenter. I

Guest — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 13:41:59 -0400

Ditto that last commenter. I say take the moral high ground and move on from the marriage, if that's your intent, before moving into another jungle. And of it's a summer adventure you're after, maybe you and the monkey your married to should call it an open marriage and go out branch swinging with one another's consent.

wow

Guest — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 08:42:11 -0400

Two wrongs don't make a right, as you know. Do yourself a favor, end your marriage first. You'll be much happier and one day be able to look back and know you entered your next relationship with your head screwed on right. FWIW, I'm not the cheater, but was cheated on.

Thanks

Guest — Sun, 17 Aug 2008 20:37:44 -0400

Maya, I just discovered this website and your blog today and I just wanted to thank you for sharing your experience with us. I just finished reading all 5 pages of your posts and I feel like you've been spying on me because your experience is soo unbelievably similar to mine. So again thank you for writing and sharing with us! Although I wouldn't wish the "should I go or should I stay" ordeal on anyone, it's comforting to know that I'm not the only one going through this.

Okay, first of all, right

Guest — Sat, 16 Aug 2008 11:51:24 -0400

Okay, first of all, right when I started to type this a song came on and said, "right by your side." No flippin' accidents! Selfish? NO! Self caring? YES!!! Men are not mind readers (many women are) you have GOT to spell it out! Take out the guess work! Give them a recipe for success!!!! RBYS (BTW, 90 posts? WOOOHOOO!!)

wacky

Guest — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 14:15:16 -0400

Know what? I'd tell that family to go eff themselves. Sorry, but your son isn't group property. You are his mother, and yes, it IS detrimental for your son to be around people who don't like, care or respect you or your feelings. I know I'll probably get blasted but I've lived through this and found it wasn't healthy for my kids to be with their aunt/grandmother (ex's side) who did what they could to demonize me.

I'm in favor a greener

Guest — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 13:16:16 -0400

I'm in favor a greener planet. Who isn't? I mean, I really don't know anyone who prefers filth, pollution, or disease. In today's world, divorce has become as common as rain - it is always happening somewhere. The notion that divorce causes less efficient use of resources is a no brainer (it doesn't take a lot of gray-matter to understand that two people living together might be more efficient than if living apart). The problem with the study that this post references is that the study seems to point to divorce as a cause for pollution. It suggests that the planet would be better off if we all just learned to get a long and we stayed together and tuffed-out our lives together. So what's next? Will we see Greenpeace sailing into NY Harbor with an agenda to change laws such that couples need to stay together for the good of the planet? I say phooey!! http://firstwivesworld.com/relevant-news/brian-kilroy