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Not at all!!!!!!

justjax — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 19:36:49 -0500

Girl go out and do stuff- surround yourself with new faces and old friends! I have dinner with some girls from high school. We have been doing that since the divorce. It's so upliftting. I go out with the girls from work sometimes and coupled friends of my ex and I to comedy clubs or dinner. You gotta put your mind in the right place! Get out there and learn about yourself. Find a new you! Have fun!

Insight

Taylor Raine — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 13:30:59 -0500

Thanks for your insight. I've heard so many people make rash decisions when getting divorced, or after leaving abusive relationships. I just want to make rationale decisions. I appreciate your words of wisdom.

Taylor Raine

Never too soon

Guest — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 06:52:10 -0500

Agreed! It is only too soon, if you decide it is. The right time for change is when you desire it, because your insides won't rest until you move closer to what you want, or find something you want more. It is human nature to seek out happiness,... part of our self-preservation instinct. =)

how you feel is how you

Guest — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 20:51:29 -0500

how you feel is how you feel- change is always viewed as scary- almost taboo. I say go for it! Something in you is telling you to try something new. You've got nothing to lose.

Is It Too Early For Change?

Taylor Raine — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 14:00:00 -0500

Is it a bad thing to seek change while going through a divorce?

I am working at an educational facility, and prior to this divorce proceeding, was working with my ex. When I filed for a restraining order, I spoke to my boss and got transferred into a new department. At first, I thought this move was up my alley, but I realize now that I'm just bored. I just don't foresee the job duties changing in the near future, either.

Something that I love about work is the reciprocation from others, but right now I'm pretty much surrounded by the walls of my cubicle, left alone. This is good in some respects, but I'm essentially bored.

I'd much rather be busy and interacting with people — even if they're not my friends — than alone and left with the devices of a blank computer screen. I miss interaction.

Before I got married, I had visions of what I wanted for my life. Many of those visions haven't changed. I just wonder if it's too soon to start making some changes for myself. I know any change will come with its own set of challenges, but I feel I need to have other people surrounding me now. I feel it will help buffer the bad challenges in my life right now.

I question my intentions and my need for some change, but think I need to go with my gut that says "make a move, it's in your best interests." Is that wrong?