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It's not the wedding, it's the marriage.

Guest — Wed, 16 Jan 2008 19:18:47 -0500

It's not the wedding, it's the marriage, which you already know. What kind of marriage do you want, do you envision? Pull something from that vision, even a very small thing, and put it into the wedding. And good luck to you! I just found this website and have enjoyed reading through all your posts, btw. You are a good writer and seem like a cool person, a good mom, and a good ex to your ex. --Betty

do it your way- who cares if

Guest — Sun, 18 Nov 2007 19:51:37 -0500

do it your way- who cares if someone is offended? This is your wedding- and more importantly, your marriage.

The wedding

Guest — Sun, 18 Nov 2007 18:08:37 -0500

Naomi please, after being married for the third time...just do it your way......and don't let anyone make you feel....guilty..this is your time. Ask your future husband what he wants, tell him how you feel and then make each of you feel it's yours not theirs.. good luck and have fun...these times are very....trying on the nerves..

my best,

Dorothy from grammology
call your gram..

Do I Need A Wedding Planner?

Naomi Dunne — Sun, 18 Nov 2007 18:00:00 -0500

Now that I’ve started divorce proceedings, my partner and I have decided to start talking about getting married. It’s funny -- since I’ve been married before, people seem to think that I’m an expert on weddings. Nothing could be further from the truth.

When my ex and I got married, we did so on nine days notice. We were married at the courthouse by a lovely man named Parson Carson. I wore a white prom dress — thankfully not my prom dress, just one that was originally designed for that occasion. When we got engaged, we left a message for our best man, letting him know his services would be required. He didn’t actually get the message until 4 a.m. the morning of the wedding. Let’s just say we didn’t have much in the way of a rehearsal dinner.

So now we really don’t know what to do. My future mother-in-law seems to think that I either want a huge wedding because I didn’t have one the first time, or that it would be inappropriate to have a huge wedding since I’ve been married before. My friends are suggesting Vegas, Niagara Falls, the courthouse again. I refuse to be married twice in the same courthouse. In my city, we actually have a psychiatric hospital with a beautiful chapel — people have suggested we get married there.

The worst thing is, everyone is telling me I should have the wedding that I want. I just don’t know what I want, and I don’t know what to tell them. Maybe Vegas isn’t such a bad idea.