firstwivesworld - Meeting The Attorney - Comments

Nothing filed at this point.

Guest — Sat, 17 Nov 2007 22:10:22 -0500

I just saw Dick recently and and All I can say is I don't know what is happening at this point. There has been nothing fiflled at this point.
Randie.

The Dick

Guest — Fri, 16 Nov 2007 08:01:54 -0500

Did you wait or what? What happened? My divorce has been going on for 8 months. So sick of this and just want to get it over with!

Don't wait

Guest — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 14:10:18 -0500

If the Dick wants you to wait until Thursday, do it on Monday! It's time to play hardball with the Dick.
Tiny hugs to you,
ICURN

To wait or not wait..

Guest — Sat, 10 Nov 2007 07:13:59 -0500

I'd be concerned and ask is there something I should know? Or move quickly, perhaps ask your attorney what they think. This does not smell right.

Good luck..
Dorothy from grammology
remember to call your grandma

Don't Wait....Go on and do

Guest — Thu, 08 Nov 2007 10:25:12 -0500

Don't Wait....Go on and do what you have to do. Stay in control, Don't let the Dick munipulate you into doing what he wants you to do. It may come back and bite you in the ass. I'm so in awe of you and how you've handled your cancer and this divorce. You inspire me!

Meeting the Attorney

Guest — Thu, 08 Nov 2007 09:32:37 -0500

I too was married for a long time; 28 years. I knew this man since I was 15. Or at least I thought I knew this man. It was the most difficult thing to do. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Meeting The Attorney

Randie Thomas — Thu, 08 Nov 2007 08:00:00 -0500

I met with the divorce attorney this week for the first time. Part of me felt empowered and part of me felt like running into The Dick's arms for comfort. For more than 21 years he's been there — over half of my life. So many memories are tied up with him — good and bad. This is a very hard decision to make.

It's one of those decisions that once you make it, you better be damn sure you mean it. We've talked about this, but not since shortly after he left. I felt it would be best to bring up the subject again before a processor comes to serve him with papers.

I'd two perfect excuses to call. The first was to check on his grandfather who's in the hospital. I've always liked Clifford — he always treated me very well, as did his grandmother who passed away last year. The second was to tell him one of our close friend's mother passed away this week. I'm sure The Dick hasn't talked with this friend since he left town, so a call would be most appreciated.

After I'd taken care of these two tasks, I began with the real purpose of the call.

"So what are your thoughts on our current situation?" I'm surprised at how casually I transitioned into the line.

"What do you mean? I guess I haven't really thought about it." He stumbled over the words like I had slapped him upside the head.

"I ask because I'm ready to file for divorce and I just didn't want that to come as a surprise."

"You're what? You mean...I didn't think...um...when did...oh, wow..." His voice trailed off.

"We talked about this. I don't ever expect you to come home and you're the one who said that you wanted to start a new life. I'm mostly done with the cancer stuff, so I'm ready to do what comes next on my list. Taking care of this is next. I'm ready to move on with my life."

The words came out so easily, as if I prepared the speech.