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She is not your friend!

lgrice — Tue, 23 Oct 2007 14:46:50 -0400

She is not your friend! Great girlfriends stand by each other. If it wasn't such a big deal, why didn't she come to you first and say "Your ex just invited me and my daughter to dinner, How do you feel about that?" She's not a true friend, loose the insecure @&%$#!!!!!

Drop this "so called

Guest — Tue, 23 Oct 2007 14:11:51 -0400

Drop this "so called friend", she's selfish and does not care about you or your feelings. Of course he is trying to push your buttons. Sounds like a Narcissist. You have a tough road before you, and you don't need anyone to add to your burdens. In this case you are better off without the both of them, cut your ties to them as best you can. You need supportive people around you right now.

A Reader Writes

WivesWire — Tue, 23 Oct 2007 13:30:37 -0400

Patricia, a regular First Wives reader, wrote to relate a story about a friend who's divorced. The woman has been divorced for a little more than a year and has been with five different men.

Now Patricia, who is separated from her husband for more than a year and living apart from him, tells us that her soon-to-be-ex invited this woman and her daughter to dinner at his house recently. And the story is as follows:

"He had the kids for the weekend, so all five were at his house. After dinner, I spent an hour ‘IMing' with the kids before they came home and they told me that my girlfriend was at their dad's house for dinner.

My question to all of you: Is is fair for me to be upset with her for going over there? I don't want to get back with my ex but out of respect for me, I think she shouldn't have gone. On other occasions, my ex has had female employees to dinner at my house while I was away and sometimes calls our kids while women are laughing in the background.

Is he trying to push my buttons with this behavior? Am I being too sensitive? I confronted my girlfriend and told her that I would never have done this to another woman. She apologized and said that she just didn't think. She was thinking pretty clearly though when she didn't tell her boyfriend where she was.