Married Couples Happy; Not Having Much Sex

Jill Brooke — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 18:40:26 -0400

Here's another reason that life is full of possibility, and that if your first marriage didn’t work, perhaps the next one will. A recent survey in Parade magazine found that 88 percent of couples interviewed said they were — drum roll, please — happy or reasonably content in their marriages. Yippee.

Another hopeful nugget on the state of matrimony was that half of the couples used words like "joyful" or "loving" to portray their marraiges. Furthermore, 71 percent of these couples said they've stayed married because of deep love while 73 percent also cited the magic word — the desire for companionship.

Why does this not surprise me? For starters, I am a happily re-married woman who adores her husband after 15 years of being together. Although the study didn't break down whether many of these participants were in second marriages, I would bet that many were.

Here's a little secret rarely reported: We learn from our mistakes. Sometimes you can have two good people who just aren't good for each other. That was certainly the case in my first marriage. I learned who I was and who I wasn't. (Also learned who he was and wasn't...and then said good-bye).

Because I was younger, I didn't know myself as well. Qualities like being cute and adoring went high up on the husband-to-be resumé. Didn't really focus on such important factors as whether we shared common values, heritage, or ways to spend Sunday afternoons. Also, you grow more tolerant over time, realizing that sometimes it really is ok to agree to disagree.

So the Parade survey wasn’t too surprising. Plus we like happy endings and new beginnings at FWW.

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Married Couples Happy; Not Having Much Sex