Guy vs Job

Justice Seeker — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 00:00:53 -0400

Well yes it is considered more socially acceptable to ask if you met someone. Don't know why but somehow one's job status seems more personal. Also people find sex more interesting than work. However there is a serious factor. People have observed that there is a window when woman pair up after school or after divorce and if they miss this they never do. The statistics show that a much lower per centage of divorced women remarry then men. That does not seem to make sense but I have observed it in practice. I am a divorce lawyer and men will come in heartbroken that their wife has left them and in no time be living with someone. Woman are far less likely to repartner and those who do not in the first year, in my practice never do. I often say so where do the men find the partners if the women don't get married but I guess they are marrying younger women or something. So my advice is try out those blind dates that your friends want to set you up on.

Find Me a Job, Not a Man

Akillah Wali — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 15:24:24 -0400

I appreciate all of those who seem to be committed in their efforts to finding me a man, but could you help me find a job first?

I am saying this because — well, let’s face it — I feel as if I’ve been pushed to.

More times than not, I have had people ask me in some form or another when I planned to start dating. Now that I am finished with school for the time being, many people see this as a time for me when I should to get back in the saddle, find a man, and ride him off into the sunset. But I would rather prefer to have a steady job rather than a steady beau.

But I am left to wonder, why do so many people place such a premium on being in a relationship – even at the expense of self-fulfillment?

It just seems irrational — and irresponsible — to try to land a boyfriend before landing a job. Would you splurge on a luxury vacation before paying your rent? I think not. So why waste time looking for a mate rather than look for a job?

Human beings are social animals. I know this — I’m a sociologist. I also know that there are basic human needs that we all have that need to be met, should we want to feel complete. Referring back to Abraham Maslow’s pyramid schematic, says that one would see that safety and financial security actually come before relationships and sexual intimacy. What I want to know is; why then do friends and acquaintances worry more about my romantic life than my professional life? And when did the flip occur? Why is it that so many people seem to place the need of being fulfilled by others over self-fulfillment? Does it seem less embarrassing (or more interesting?) to say “Have you finally met a guy?” than “Did you finally find work?”

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Guy vs Job

Find Me a Job, Not a Man