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Guest — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 17:01:54 -0400

And your right in addition they are usually lonely and could use a friend as well. Good luck and I hope you find some consoling people.. Dorothy from grammology remember to call your gram www.grammology.com

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bargee — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 11:17:52 -0400

alice, i am sorry to hear about your bad news and i hope you're doing ok.

this is my sitch exactly

bargee — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 10:33:43 -0400

I've had an especially bad week myself and feel like I've been having epic sword-fights with loneliness every day. I cannot see the other side just now, and i really could use a good friend, a trusty sidekick, a kimosabe. But everyone who lives near enough seems to have her own hands full with kids, school vacations, etc.

Pondering Divorce? Get Some Single Friends

Alice Brooks — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 09:43:46 -0400

You've learned to ask for help. You've leaned you don't need to do this alone. You know you don't have to sit there on your miserable little island trying to cope all by yourself.

But then you realize you don't actually know anyone you can call and say, "I am hurting. Please come over." Well, you do, but they can't. They have kids. They live in other states or across the bridge. They are no longer drop-of-a-hat people. (Reason #732 not to have kids: they prevent you from coming to the aide of your single, sad friend with Nalgene bottles of cocktails and a comforting presence, but that's beside the point.)

So, here I am, in my living room, alone, trying to remember that I've learned, in the course of things, to take care of myself. That doing this alone is, in fact, what I've preferred. Because this week I was hit with some pretty bad news. This week I'm really struggling. This week I could use someone to come and just sit with me. And there isn't anyone who can.

Here's what I recommend to all of you pondering divorce: Get yourself some single friends. Friends without babies. Friends who live within 15 minutes of you. Because there's going to come a night when you need someone, when you're in a place where you want that help, and you'll need someone in your phonebook who not only loves you and stands by you, but is actually able to come over.

I'm in a more cynical space than usual, I guess, because I wonder: What's the use of learning to ask for support when, in the end, you're still going to end up on your couch alone?

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Pondering Divorce? Get Some Single Friends