Maybe your friend is exudes

Guest — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 17:01:36 -0400

Maybe your friend is exudes more confidence in public now that she is engaged. I know that is the way I felt when I was first engaged. Men are most attracted to women who are confident and have their own lives going. Or they could just be the definitely wrong type of men who only focus on attached women . . . I actually get hit on most places I go and I no longer have a ring. Men seem to be much more openly flirtacious. In my case I do feel more confident and sexy now that I am rid of my ex.

Huh, the other day an

Guest — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 12:21:42 -0400

Huh, the other day an engaged friend of mine remarked how more men hit on her now whe nthey see the ring on her finger then before... confusing! CM

Let Freedom Ring

Maya Halpen — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 09:16:29 -0400

I'm back from a girlfriend getaway in paradise. Travels with a best friend off the beaten path awakened more joy in me and soothed my soul, but also left me wondering...

Why can't I capture a sense of fun and wonder in the every day life I already have? Why do I put up with pressures and jobs and people I don't like? Because I think I'm resigned to my lot and can't effect change for the better?

Why do I feel so stuck here in Boston, but I was free as a bird in Mexico?

One idea: I was wearing no wedding ring. I wasn't seeking romantic or sexual attention from men. But I think the ringless finger — and people's assumptions about my lack of attachment — invited more open responses and deeper interactions than I would have otherwise experienced.

One afternoon my traveling companion and I looked up from our reading to see a man snorkeling in the heavy surf. Curious. He emerged onto the beach with a string of fish and spear. We dropped our books and marched over to investigate. He saw us approach and waited to show us his catch of red snapper, octopus, and lobster.

In bits of English and Spanish we learned were evening snacks to enjoy with some friends. He was perfectly sweet and answered all our questions, with no suggestion of interest beyond the subject at hand. But he told us if we brought some beer, we could come try some of the grilled fish. Fun!

Unfortunately, we had other plans. But judging by his manner and our rapport, I think if we had taken him up on the offer we would have found a relaxed local scene in which we felt perfectly comfortable: an evening on the beach with some new friends. But were a ring on my finger, this might not have come to pass.

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Maybe your friend is exudes

Huh, the other day an

Let Freedom Ring