Thank you for this list . . .

Guest — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 13:12:03 -0400

. . . as it helped me further realize that I am taking a healthy approach to dating. When I first decided to start dating about a year after my divorce, I thought it would be fun to be what you refer to as a "serial dater," with the thought that it would be great to meet lots of different types of men to have plain fun with and to get even better at knowing what I am and am not looking for. However, I realized that I had no interest or time to be a "serial dater" as I am loving my life, am absorbed in growing my own business, and trying out new adventures that have nothing to do with dating (althought dates have resulted from these new adventures). Dates have definitely are not hard for me to get, but the several I have chosen to go on are really coming from being a "happy dater" who truly enjoys the other person's company, sees each date as a way to get to know another human being, not to find the next man I will marry, etc. And, I only go on dates with men who are most likely going to be taking the same approach, also. It must be working, because most of my first dates are long (3-4 hours each or more) because we are enjoying talking and sharing so much. Even though my sexuality and sexual needs are still going strong, and the "I just want to sleep with you dater" sounds appealing sometimes, I know that doing so takes more away from the life I am enjoying than it gives. It doesn't mean that I have not had fun playing up any sexual attraction with men without having sex, but rather that I am never coming from a place of desperation, neediness, or control. I am so glad to be at this place as last year I thought it would take me a long time to get out of the "damaged daters" category because my divorce was due to my ex's infidelity. So, being a "happy dater" is very possible, not matter what type of pain you have or are trying to work through from your divorce!

Divorced Women’s Dating Styles

Maureen Dempsey — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 14:48:24 -0400

Talk about a hot topic! FWW's own Debbie Nigro was recently featured on WNBC's Today in New York and Fox's The Morning Show with Mike and Juliet, covering divorced women's dating styles. Are you a dumbstruck dater? A panic dater? Debbie gave us the lowdown on these and more.

If you missed either segment, worry not! Here is the full, unabridged list...

Dating After divorce can be a wonderful new beginning, but everyone approaches it differently. Below is a list I came up with to describe various divorced gals dating styles I've observed over the years.

Ladies, you will find that you may fit in to more than one category. Some of you will even transition back and forth between categories at any given time. Let me know if I've missed any. Gentlemen, which of these gals have you dated?

Hopefully this will help you understand better who might be sitting across from you the next time, too.

Damaged Daters You don't trust anyone anymore with your heart. You've been burned. You are not so quick to jump back into another relationship, but you go anyway because you think you are supposed to at least try. Your cynical vibes smell defensive and stink up the room. Wear extra perfume.

I Don't Care Daters You are not interested. You're energy is focused elsewhere. You need time to to find out who you are. You go just because someone's very nice but you really don't care, but you don't let him know you don't care. He doesn't pick up you don't care so he calls you again and you go again..even though you don't care.

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Divorced Women’s Dating Styles