We often mis-direct anger...

Guest — Fri, 23 May 2008 20:40:26 -0400

We often mis-direct anger... good for you for calling a spade a spade. This guy needs to deal with his issues head on and stop taking it out on you. CM

well said.

bargee — Thu, 22 May 2008 17:45:33 -0400

your commenter/critic is a boor and a bore. i think you've put your finger directly on one of his problems: he doesn't get that you're not her because he thinks women are all the same, so he is hurting his wife/ex-wife/all women by hurting you. and he probably won't stop unless he stops getting the attention he craves here. so, enough of him! megan, i enjoy reading your posts about you. thank you. i've learned a lot from you.

Getting Attention...But Not the Good Kind

Megan Thomas — Thu, 22 May 2008 14:47:27 -0400

Apparently I attract a lot of men.

I don't mean in everyday life, although I might make the claim that I clean up pretty nicely for the most part. What I mean is that I've noticed that men seem to like to read my blog and then freak out about the things I say.

I don't know what makes me so appealing to these guys/this guy, but it probably has to do with the fact that I'm not yet divorced and am open to write about nearly anything. Maybe my critics think they can change my mind.

One thing I've noticed, and which I just really have to comment on, is that one commenter in particular really seems to project his own marital issues onto me. When I say "project," I mean that he was hurt by his wife/ex-wife in a certain way and for one reason or another he sees the same thing in me.

I'm just assuming, of course, but I think that when he types out his angry tirades that he is actually typing to his wife. It may be subconscious, but I would bet you anything that after he comments on my blogs he gets a real feeling of satisfaction.

Hey, mess with a blogger who has a degree in psychology and you're going to get an analysis. Sorry.

So to my dear male critic, I need to clarify a few things. I'm not your wife/ex-wife. She and I are two completely different women. I know that you think she didn't do enough, and that you had to carry the burden of everything. I know you resented her staying home while you went to work. Maybe that arrangement was indeed off-kilter for the two of you, and maybe it proved to be the downfall of your marriage. I sympathize that you had to go through that, and I have no doubt that at one time you were completely in love with her. It's tough to watch love dissolve, isn't it?

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We often mis-direct anger...

well said.

Getting Attention...But Not the Good Kind