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Levis' mom

Faith Eggers — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 11:33:11 -0400

I agree. She's a totally obnoxious, abusive, woman. I think that Levis problems have a lot to do with his mother. I think it would behoove him greatly to get into therapy and work out his mommy issues.. However, lets not forget that Levi is a 42 year old man. He's far too old to go around blaming his parents for his actions. At some point, he'll have to figure out how to be an adult.

The apple doesn't fall far

Guest — Sat, 26 Apr 2008 17:54:40 -0400

The apple doesn't fall far from the tree, does it? What a pyscho woman! Her head will probably blow off when the courts order Levi to pay child support! Fantastic! CM

That Levi's mom would tell

Elaina Goodman — Sat, 26 Apr 2008 14:18:27 -0400

That Levi's mom would tell you to put Adrian up for adoption "if you can't hack it." A mom that could tell another mom, any other mom at all, let alone the mother of her grandchild, to put him up for adoption if it;s too much struggle, WTF?? Explains a lot about Levi, doesn't it!

And you can

Wanda Woodard — Sat, 26 Apr 2008 10:08:39 -0400

You can make it through just one day at a time. However, I have to say that you have been graciously blessed with a child to raise. Those horrible people telling you "If you can't hack it, put IT up for adoption." My God!!! This isn't a kitten or a puppy we're talking about. That is flat out monstrous! Faith, you and Adrian will be fine, and HE, not IT, will be a better person for having seen his mother struggle and succeed. But, as you said, one day at a time. Just take it one day at a time.

One Day At A Time

Faith Eggers — Sat, 26 Apr 2008 10:00:00 -0400

I used to think that I had something to prove. That by not pursuing child support from Levi, I was proving to him and to his family that we didn't need them. At the very end of our relationship, they all tried to push me, hard, to put Adrian up for adoption. Since Adrian's birth, whenever the subject of child support has come up, Levi and his mother both said to me, "If you can't hack it, put him up for adoption." I felt like I needed to prove to them that I had made the right choice.

I keep talking about how much time has helped change my perspective on things, and I guess, for now, I will continue to do so, because it really has.

I have grown tremendously as a person from this experience. I feel like I was stripped down to my bare bones, and given the opportunity to start over. I feel like a new person.

As a result, I no longer feel that I have something to prove to them. Their opinion doesn't matter to me. It ceased to matter, when I realized that my son never began to matter to any of them.

That doesn't mean that this sucks any less, though. That doesn't mean that I wouldn't love to be able to do it all on my own. I simply cannot. Unfortunately, we live in a world in which finances are a necessity. It costs a lot to raise a child, and now, the only person I have to prove anything to is him.

I've made it through another day of this, and moving forward, what strikes me the most, is that I feel stronger. I feel like I can make it through this.