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I'm going through this too

mistyr — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 16:35:55 -0400

This is so hard. I get at least one venomus e-mail per week. My body goes into complete panic mode that leaves me dashing for the bathroom. It's a terrible holding pattern to be in. I don't know what to expect from Stuart anymore. I just signed up for a gun safety class. I never would have believed it if someone had told me that someday I would bring a gun into my home to feel safe from him. I know this must be normal, and I know people survive it. It's so hard to imagine that someone whom I used to hold so dear (and still do) is now so cruel. I wish so much that this could be easier, but I also try so hard to be present and accepting of the lesson. I would like to hear from women on the other side of this how long the anger lasts. These last 3 months have aged me and I need to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Exactly

Faith Eggers — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 20:45:12 -0400

Thanks Ladies...I'm all over that!! Faith

I agree with Wanda- TELL

Guest — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 19:18:14 -0400

I agree with Wanda- TELL EVERYONE! Karma's a b***h! CM

I'm fuming right now

Wanda Woodard — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 17:22:06 -0400

Ok, this burns me up!! How can someone who supposedly once loved you turn into a monster? I'll tell you how -- they were monsters all along, but they were cleverly disguised. If you need to, you record those conversations. You get a lawyer. You file a restraint order. You get your situation "ON the radar" and let EVERYONE know what he and his wacked family is doing to you -- you are the mother -- you come first and foremost. That bastard needs someone to kick his ass!!

For sure

Faith Eggers — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 17:00:14 -0400

That's why I LOVE Gmail!

Thanks Maureen!

Faith Eggers — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 16:59:52 -0400

Thanks Maureen!

Faith, everyone is behind you!

Guest — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 10:45:15 -0400

E-mail and phone threats are soooooooo awful. Every time the phone rings or you look at your e-mail, your body just gets tense wandering what is going to come at you next. Although mine were not coming because of a child, they were coming from both my ex and his girlfriend (who was the reason the marriage ended) over the stupidest items in the house over a 9 month period. It does definitely take a one moment at a time approach, but I know you can do it! Your precious little one is worth every moment. Do you have a lawyer? Is there any way that you can tell Levi that anything he has to say to you must go through your lawyer or you will be getting a restraining order? Like Elaina said, keep all of the e-mails and the phone messages just in case you have to file a restraining order or to just have for court. I would suggest buying a cheap $20 voice recorder to have handy whenever you need it! I KNOW that you can do this. I will be praying for you, and keep using FFW as a form of release, but also to allow us to continue to support you. P.S. What the heck is up with his first ex-wife? That is even odder.

log those emails

Elaina Goodman — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 21:32:37 -0400

psycho-boy sure is not the brightest, huh? I mean, if I was going to threaten someone, I hope I'd be smart enough not to leave such a big fat trail. Stay strong, sounds like he's slinging the same old crap because it's worked in the past! Hold on to those emails, maybe there's a way you can hit him with harrassment, too. Or, a tleast make the court aware of his soprano-style intimidation.

stay strong

Maureen Dempsey — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 21:09:48 -0400

you're doing the right thing. planned pregnancy, remember? and even if it wasn't, only a major snake would back out of his responsibility like he has. you're doing all of this because it is owed to not just your son, but to you. you have scrimped and shuffled and stretched to get by, and there's no reason it has to be that way. you can totally do this.

you're doing the right

Maureen Dempsey — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 21:09:05 -0400

I Won't Respond to Your E-Threats

Faith Eggers — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 12:00:56 -0400

I am stuck. I'm scared, stuck. I feel like one of the squirrels in the middle of the highway staring down a car, trying to figure out which way to go; only to remain there frozen with fear praying to God this giant machine doesn't run over me.

Yeah, Levi found out about court. That was fast.

He called me once, and I did answer. He screamed a slew of threats at me. Threats like, "I'm just going to take him from you" and, "You don't even know what you're getting into, you really f%%^ed up this time!"

I hung up on him.

Then his other ex wife (see "My Ex's (Invasive and Obnoxious) Ex"), starts sending me emails on the subject.

I'm not even going to pay any mind to her bullshit.

Then I got an email from Levi.

It goes like this:

"It didn't have to be this way. This time you will truly have no one to blame but yourself.

See you on the other side......."

I'm not really sure how to interpret that. He'll see me on the other side of what, exactly?

Again, I'm not responding.

This is usually the point where I back down, and now I'm remembering why. This is awful. The way these people treat me is totally inhumane, uncalled for and unforgivable. The way they treat my son is even worse.

So, I won't back down, today. I will take this one day at a time, and hopefully, I will see it through.