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Aint it the truth!

Wanda Woodard — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 10:57:56 -0400

But...we're changing things right here at FWW, aren't we. We're saying loud and clear, we're mad as hell and we're not going to take it anymore! (smile) Women, we must help one another in our day to day lives. We have to help and share and care. Which, by the way, we're all doing here at FWW. This site is a Godsend for all of us.

I agree- it's a matter of

Guest — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 08:59:35 -0400

I agree- it's a matter of changing the idea of what relationships SHOULD be like in terms of the roles of each party. There is so much pressure to define relationships. But if we just treated each other how we wanted to be treated (I know, it's so simple), it seems to me it would be so much easier! Yet, we humans never seem to like the easy route... CM

Ditto, CM!

Wanda Woodard — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 12:50:52 -0400

If a men and women can ever learn how to be friends and lovers at the same time, we would live in a world with far fewer divorces. Alas, I'm not particularly hopeful about this.

True Friends

Wanda Woodard — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 12:49:38 -0400

Yep. From the time I was six years old, I have always held my dear friends close to my heart. They are there for us with unconditional love and no judgement. God, I love my friends!!

No matter what, your friends

Guest — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 11:51:07 -0400

No matter what, your friends will always be there to feed your soul. CM

Breakfast

Guest — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 11:44:12 -0400

I absolutely agree with this blogger, the best thing for women that are going through a divorce are they friends and their abilities to lift them up.

Cook was a 4-letter word for my ex

Wanda Woodard — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 17:33:39 -0400

The son of a bitch NEVER cooked!! LOL!

My ex's cooking

KarenC — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 16:44:47 -0400

was mostly from the frozen food aisle. I freezer is almost empty now except for whatever items I cooked for myself and put away. Many men only cook what they can grill.

Does It Get Any Better?

Wanda Woodard — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 11:51:43 -0400

Since I'm always writing about the struggles and heartbreak of Moving Beyond Divorce, this morning I'm writing about breakfast instead.

Breakfast with two of my best gal friends.

Picture this: I'm sitting at the bar that is open to the kitchen. Almost immediately, if not before, Lori is across from me making a drink of orange juice and wine. (We were out of champagne and we live in a blue law state — you know, you get "blue" 'cause you can't buy liquor or wine on Sunday.)

She adds something to sweeten the drinks, throws in a couple of fresh strawberries, and we're set.

Kim, the chef extraordinaire, is doing a whole lot of chopping. Looks like fresh spinach, and I see some baby yellow squash, some red and yellow peppers. And there are some diced potatoes and something I honestly do not recognize.

The greens and vegetables have water beads on them, as Kim has just carefully and gently rinsed the produce she bought just this morning from the market. And I know that because she called me from the checkout counter while I was driving into Nashville, where she and Lori live.

The smells are beginning to lift into the air and across the bar. I smell it all, and it smells like heaven.

The wine did its job, and we have moved onto Grey Goose. It's Sunday and it's finally past noon, so we decide to take it up a notch.

Then the food is served. Kim does it all, the shopping, the chopping, the cooking, and the serving. She puts the food on our plates with careful balance. She makes certain we each have more than enough, and then she puts our plates on the bar.

She serves us.

Women will serve each other. Men seldom do, if ever. My guess is that most of you reading this were not served by your exes.