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Here's a way around all of that...

Guest — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 22:36:03 -0400

Faith-- loved this entry. I deal with this a lot. I haven't dated at all since my split, but the guys that I have been interested in have Art's reaction when they realize that I am a mom. The antidote to feeling a little jealous that the ex is "living the life" (which mine absolutely is)? I go upstairs, and open the doors to my sweeties' rooms and look at their dear faces. And any jealousy is gone. I'm sure you feel the same way about Adrian. If anything, I feel a little sorry for my ex right now. I think I'm going to go up and peek at mine now. Thanks for reminding me what is important. Good luck to you!

OK..this time you brought

Faith Eggers — Sun, 13 Apr 2008 09:29:25 -0400

OK..this time you brought tears to my eyes. This is probaby..no..CERTAINLY one of the nicest things anybody has ever said to me. Thanks so much. Love, Faith

I think it's great that you

Guest — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 20:29:23 -0400

I think it's great that you are out there and dating again- it seems to me that you should try and enjoy that more. The man that isn't freaked out by you having a child will be the one that you perhaps decide to spend more time with. I know, some people are just incapable of understanding your life. But really, would you rather be Levi- an insensitive ass who has the intelligence of a pea, or an awesome Mom and person, and quite frankly, a great role model for her son? CM

Another One Bites the Dust

Faith Eggers — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 07:00:08 -0400

I dumped another boy today. We'd been seeing each other for about a month. A month seems to be the cut-off point for me now.

The reasons are different every time but ultimately boils down to the same thing over and over again: I have a son. I have a son that demands much of my time; being a parent requires much responsibility, being a single parent requires even more. I have a son that I will love more than any boyfriend, ever, period.

I always lay this out, in different words/ways, right from the start. The men always seem to get it, but for some reason that inevitable "wow" moment always happens upon us. For Art (the latest dumpee), that day was today.

Things have been going great. We've been having tons of fun, no issues, no drama, just straight-up fun. Last night was no exception. We went out, we had a blast. We made plans to do something today, as we both had the day off.

It turned out to be a beautiful day. One of those first spring days where you can't not go outside. He called in the morning as planned and we decided to take a hike. I suggested he meet me at my house, and said that I'd drive (I have the car seat in my car).

That's when he started to freak out. He started stammering and actually said at one point, "Oh God." To which I replied, "What?" "Nothing," he said, and stammered some more. Clearly this was not nothing, and I wasn't about to let it go.

Finally, after much prying, he said, "Well, it feels a little too familial, maybe you should just enjoy your day with Adrian and we'll meet up later." Ummmm, okay. He caught me totally off guard. I honestly had no idea where this was coming from and I started to get pissed off. I told him fine, said, "I'll do that" and muttered something like, "I'll call you later."