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i've got great in-laws

Guest — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 21:47:06 -0400

... and that's part of what makes my split w/ my husband so difficult. my in-laws have *always* liked me, and it's completely mutual. i won the in-law jackpot. i only hope i can keep them in my life to some extent, now.

Ah, yes. The Dick's mother

Naomi Dunne — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 03:14:25 -0400

She's a sweet one, isn't she? I remember reading posts about her and feeling my stomach turn for you.

Widowed, orphaned, and childless

Naomi Dunne — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 03:13:36 -0400

Now THAT is perfect. Can we put that on a bumper sticker somewhere? T-shirt ? Mug?

Nah, you're good!

Naomi Dunne — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 03:12:33 -0400

I wouldn't worry too much about it. If they're nice now, they'll probably stay that way. Now's the time they should be at their meanest, just to scare you off. :)

Oh boy- I'm getting married

Guest — Sat, 29 Mar 2008 20:25:00 -0400

Oh boy- I'm getting married in 7 months and so far his in-laws are great... should I be worried? I always thought they were lovely!

Excellent Post!

Randie Thomas — Sat, 29 Mar 2008 17:19:24 -0400

Excellent post Naomi! My ex mother in-law still calls and tells me how much she loves me even though she made it perfectly clear through the marriage to the Dick that she hated ever inch of my being and that I was no where near good enough for her son. Now all of sudden she wants to be my best friend. Too little too late...this from the same woman who called shortly after the separation and yelled at me for doing everything just to spite the ex. Funny how things change. All my best!

In-laws make great out-laws

Wanda Woodard — Sat, 29 Mar 2008 12:55:53 -0400

Naomi -- absoutely true. I agree with you 100 per cent. I have always felt that a good potential next husband (if I EVER decide to go that way again) would be one who was widowed, orphaned and childess. Does this make me a cold person? Heh Heh Heh

Can I Divorce My In-Laws?

Naomi Dunne — Sat, 29 Mar 2008 11:00:00 -0400

One of my favorite parts of being divorced is not having in-laws anymore. The freedom from all that extra censure and pressure cannot be overstated.

One of my least favorite parts of being part of a couple again is that you get yourself a brand spanking new set of in-laws, and they're often worse than the last.

The thing about in-laws is that they never like you. You're never good enough. You're never a good enough wife, you're never a good enough mother, you're never a good enough housekeeper. Nothing you do will ever meet the expectations placed upon you because they put those expectations in place years before either you or your partner were even born.

Some in-laws are obvious in their dislike of you. While this makes for some confrontational situations, nobody looks at you like you're crazy when you say your in-laws don't like you. Other in-laws — like, say, mine — are not obvious in their dislike. They are passive aggressive and make snarky comments with a big smile on their face, while asking you if you'd like more Merlot.

I wonder sometimes if it's possible to divorce the family without divorcing the man. And while wondering that, I wonder if divorcing the family could lower the divorce rate by an astronomical percent. Worth thinking about.