Standing By Silda

Francine — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 17:55:46 -0400

Being in the same position but not in the media, you can never get enough support from your friends. During this particular time it is most helpful to know that you have support and love from your friends

We must stand by her

Guest — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 21:59:54 -0400

We must stand by her regardless of her choices. Most of us don't have the media watching our every move- unfortunately, we all get to watch as her life unfolds before our eyes. All because her husband is a fool, to say the least. It's how I felt about Hillary Clinton when she stood there in support of her husband. It's none of my business what she decides, I have to respect her choices and respect her privacy. It sucks- I wish Silda and her daughters peace and shelter of their hearts and minds. CM

How Do Women Survive Infidelity?

Katherine McKee — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 14:35:03 -0400

Just how do women get through infidelity in marriage? Does infidelity always lead to divorce?

These are questions the media and armchair pundits are pondering in the aftermath of the Spitzer sex scandal. Psychologists and academics say the obligation to remain sexually faithful to one's spouse continues to carry a lot of weight, at least in the U.S. In France and Italy, it's something else altogether. But in the U.S., among all the marital problems one can have, infidelity is the one most likely to lead to divorce.

Sociologists' research on infidelity shows that men are routinely motivated by sex, while women stray outside the bounds of marriage in search of emotional intimacy, the kind they're not receiving from their spouse. Yes, more men than women cheat, but the numbers are increasing for both genders.

In fact, a 1994 study by sociologist Edward Lauman found that 10 percent to 11 percent of spouses had cheated in the previous year; over a lifetime, the study revealed about 18 percent of women and 24 percent of men reported an extramarital affair. More recently, a 2006 Pew Research Center survey found that nearly 90 percent of participants said it's morally wrong for married individuals to have an affair, which may or may not involve sex. Nearly the same percentage said adultery is morally wrong.

Notably, experts say that wives are more likely to forgive a cheating spouse and remain in the marriage particularly if the infidelity was committed with a prostitute or a one-night stand, versus a mistress or someone with whom a longer-term emotional bond was formed. However men are much less forgiving of their cheating wives; most don't tolerate their wives' indiscretions and view infidelity as a statement about their manhood.

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Standing By Silda

We must stand by her

How Do Women Survive Infidelity?