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Thanks

TRue — Mon, 25 Feb 2008 10:58:48 -0500

Julie- Thanks for writing this. I completely understand and am so glad to know that I am not the only one! Thanks for letting us know it will get better!!!!!!

Wow!

JulieSavard — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 20:29:56 -0500

Wow, thanks to everyone for the support and for letting me know that my words made a difference. Sometimes, I feel that I might end up actually making myself look completely insane (I'm not) and I worry I'm writing about the wrong thing. But I'm writing from my experience, which is all I have to share - and I'm glad it's helping other people. (I'm getting all choked up at the wonderful responses, sheesh!)

I know exactly how you feel!!

Guest — Thu, 14 Feb 2008 19:16:11 -0500

Wow, you took the words right out of my mouth.

Thank God it is not just me!

Guest — Thu, 14 Feb 2008 11:40:53 -0500

Julie, Your openness is so refeshing and helpful. Most people will not admit that when they are in such deep pain that does not seem like it will ever go away, that many of them daydream about ending it all to get away from the torment. I know I have and I have also had deep depression. None of this means that you are crazy. Rather, it is an expression of how deep you are hurting.

I felt that way too

Guest — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 22:56:56 -0500

The week after he left I remember driving over a bridge and thinking I could just drive off and end this pain. I didn't do it and never would but...if you haven't been there you wouldn't undrstand

thank you.

Guest — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 19:01:46 -0500

Julie, I hear your message and I feel like you just gave me the nicest Valentine's Day present. I'm definitely in the stage where I feel like I'm losing my mind, wondering how much longer this feeling can possibly go on, wondering how I can possibly go on, wondering who this pathetic person is that I've become who would say such a thing. Thanks for your promise that things will get better, even if I feel that they will surely get worse first. Sometimes a compliment, or a promise, from a total stranger catches our attention more than that of a good friend. So, thanks.

crazy

Guest — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 17:54:18 -0500

I know how you feel 2 months ago we or should I say he decided it was to hard so we would call it quits. We have been married for 25 years and this is really hard for me but what makes it worse is even though he has his own apartment he has not moved out yet.He says hes to busy. Tammy

Divorce Makes Everyone Crazy

JulieSavard — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 17:00:00 -0500

As much as I'm supposed to sit here and write about my life, I sometimes find it hard.

What would you think if I told you I stood in front of a revving Ford 350, arms flung wide and screaming for my partner not to leave? That I've chased a man, bare feet on a gravel road, begging him to love me because I thought he was my everything?

What would you think if I said that I've tried to kill myself? That I was so down and sad that I wondered what would happen if I didn't take the turn and hit the telephone pole instead? Or that I've held a knife to my wrist but didn't have the guts?

You see, even here, with the semi-anonymity of the Internet, I don't want to face the judgment. I don't want people to think I'm crazy or that there was insanity going on behind closed doors.

There was. And there is, for many women out there. Divorce can make you feel crazy, like you've lost everything. It can make your mind explode until you wonder if you really are nuts. Sorting out those emotions, making sense of the havoc you live in, is a huge, huge task.

So I'll take the chance that there are a few of you out there reading this that can relate. I'll hope that there are some women who know what I'm talking about, how you feel so crazy you go wild. I hope that no one snorts in contempt at my confessions or rolls their eyes and thinks, "Lady, get a grip."

What I do hope is that someone who reads this hears my message, the one I haven't said out loud: You're not crazy. The situation makes you crazy, but you? You're not crazy.

And I promise — things get better.