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Nice name Akillah

suzzieq — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 19:43:17 -0400

It happens so often that you lose yourself in relationships, or at least you lose your identity. It's only natural for you to want to give yourself to someone you're in love with. But it's a mistake to not retain your identity, and fight to retain it. I did exactly the same thing, and realize now I should have kept myself, and retained my own social network, rather than let go of it all...

It's true that people don't

Guest — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 18:32:56 -0400

It's true that people don't change- we just choose not to see the parts of them (and us) that we don't like. We've all been there in some way before.
I look forward to reading your blog. Welcome!

-CM

Hey Y'all

BDawg — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 16:04:43 -0400

I feel like I've been away from the fam for a while, but Im back. Just a mini vacay...Anyway, welcome girl. And ladies always remember to be yourself...a man's going to love you for you. But most importantly, you're gonna love you for you.

B--U!!

Hello..

Faith Eggers — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 15:24:23 -0400

I just wanted to say a big Hello...and Welcome...look forward to hearing more.

Faith

Wow...

Yvonne1973 — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 13:23:10 -0400

How many of us have been through the same thing. Why do we always think we can change people into what we want? We all know it doesn't work and yet we all try and do it at some point or another.

Welcome

Guest — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 12:51:00 -0400

Welcome to FWW...Jeanne

I Ignored My Gut Feelings

Akillah Wali — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 12:27:56 -0400

Hello First Wives World community! I'm a relative newcomer to the blog but no stranger to the experience of divorce. I've been divorced for four years...was married for five. And at 31, I'm a non-traditional college student attending school in New York City and working toward my B.A. in Sociology. I'm going all out-going to school full-time-to complete my degree.

My story has a lot of twists and turns and bumps, and I'm sure that's like a lot of women's stories. I guess you'll discover all the bumps and detours here on the blog. I was raised in Gainesville, Florida, but born in Cincinnati where I lived for the first six years of my life. My roots are distinctly southern and Florida is my home; I am a hillbilly! I was raised almost exclusively by my mother who also juggled my four siblings; my father wasn't a contributing factor in my development. When I was 14, my parents finally divorced, a long overdue move by that point.

I left home four years later to start my life and tried the college route. Three semesters later, the attempt proved to be a bit premature. So shortly after leaving Florida State University at 19, I enlisted in the U.S. Army, where among other experiences, I met and married my husband at 22.

Without going into too many details about our split, I will say that if ever two people did NOT match up, this was IT! I wasn't who he wanted, though he tried in a very warped way to make me into that person, chipping away at who I had already become by this point and leaving a very brittle exterior.