Be Careful When Taking Friendly Advice

Jennifer Bailey — Thu, 03 Jan 2008 16:00:00 -0500

So here we are, another Christmas season successfully behind us, and reading another article outlining the effects the holidays have on divorce. I think by now it's a widely accepted fact that while Christmas and other holidays do not cause people to get divorced, the forced proximity of the season does expose the cracks in relationships that may have previously been invisible.

So why another article about the raise in divorce rates over the holidays? Because this one actually made a good point that I haven't seen discussed before. It was mentioned almost as an afterthought, but the article quoted Yvonne Green, head of the family law division for a British group of solicitors as saying "Amateur advice is usually well meant, but can be dangerously misleading." How true this is.

When it comes to considering divorce, many people feel scared and confused, and turn to their friends for help and advice — especially if these friends have been through the process themselves. However, it can be extremely unwise to listen to the advice of friends when discussing your own relationship. Let's face it, no matter how open you are with your friends, they will never fully understand all the nuances that make up a marriage. Recently we ran an article about a woman who decided to divorce her husband because he did not get her what she wanted for Christmas, and amazingly her friends all seemed to support her decision. I rest my case.

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