Divorce Counseling, Christian Style

Samantha Louis — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 10:15:00 -0500

Joe and Michelle Williams are not your typical divorce counselors. Both Christians, their practice is both religion-based and focused on marriage reconciliation. Not only that, but the duo bases their merits on the fact that each has been divorced three times.

"Back in 1990, if you had divorce or separation in your background, you weren't allowed to speak [in churches]," says Michelle was married to Joe in 1982. Despite their faith, the two insist that religion alone is not enough to sustain marriage.

"We were told that as long as we were both going to church and both praying and both Christians, that our marriage would be saved," Michelle says. "But that's not true. It takes much more to save a marriage."

The problem, says Joe, was that "our focus was on each other instead of God."

For Michelle, "I would say the major issue was that I didn't know how to communicate my frustrations to Joe. I would tend to stuff things, and Joe did, too."

"The biggest thing I want people to know is that even if their spouse is unwilling to work on the marriage, they can take the tools we use and totally change their marriage, because it changes the dynamics in the home," Michelle says.

Added Joe, "The people we work with usually have the issue I call ‘she-he'. She does this and he does that. The husbands work and provide and then divide because their focus is their wife — they want their wife to be happy, and they don't focus on God. If they focus on God, the happiness will be a byproduct."

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