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Sexless marriage...

Guest — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 19:37:15 -0400

"I'd like to see a study on how lack of sex, for whatever reason, affects marriage, because I think we'd see strikingly similar results to this one."

I have to agree with CM about crisis and some marriages not being able to survive. Especially if you are dealing with a crisis that interferes with your ability to be intimate with your mate.

As for how lack of sex for any reason affects marriage, it's hell. Hard as hell on the person who is doing without the sex anyway. My ex told me once that he, "just didn't see what the big deal was about sex." Need I say more?

I spent years trying to get a man to desire me who had no desire for sex period. Unless both partners agree that sexual intimacy is not important to them it is the kiss of death for a marriage.

It is definitely a crisis for the person who married thinking they were going to have a "normal" sex life.

I think that when any crisis

Guest — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 15:58:33 -0400

I think that when any crisis comes into a relationship, there is a strain. Some couples can work it out and some can't. My parents are still together after 35 years of marriage and they lost a son to a horrible accident when he was barely 10 years old. Life happens! You must work it! To say that cancer causes divorce I think is a bit silly. You either pull together and support each other, or you get out because you can't handle it.

I should know!!

Guest — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 15:35:21 -0400

Maybe it's just something with cancer of the genitalia that 'icks' the other person away. Nothing says crotch rot more than cancer 'down there'. I should know...I'm speaking from experience.

Randie

Cancer Causes Divorce?

Rianne Walker — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 13:30:00 -0400

According to a new study released this week, if you're young, live in Norway, and have testicular or cervical cancer, you might as well just retain a divorce lawyer right now.

Yes, you read that right: Scientific research has found a connection between cervical and testicular cancers and divorce, particularly among young people. The research subjects were all Norwiegan couples, but experts say the results may apply elsewhere, as Norway has similar divorce statistics to other developed countries.

On the bright side, the study found that for couples facing other types of cancer, the divorce rate isn't higher, and for breast cancer — sometimes suggested as likely to cause a divorce — the divorce rate is actually lower than for couples not facing cancer.

The researchers admit that they didn't ask why the couples divorced, so they can't lay the blame on the cancer. Some suggested that the interruption to a young couple's sex life caused by the two cancers might be to blame.

It's obvious there is something significant here — it's not like they just made the results up — but I've got to question the connection between cancer and divorce.

The first thing I thought of when I read the reports was what a sociology professor once told me about ice cream sales causing a rise in rapes. The point she was making was about spurious relationships — false causality. Though the statistics seem to show one, there is no causal relationship — the real cause of both is warm weather. (As it was explained to me, in warm weather people tend to do things like stay outdoors after dark and sleep with the windows open, which makes things easier for an attacker.)