men and divorce depression

Guest — Thu, 24 May 2007 11:53:14 -0400

I really think this is true...men really depend on marriage, they like the benefits of being married--the care and feeding, emotional nurturing, safety...When they cheat, they want BOTH the benefits that a wife offers and the absolute adrenaline rush of the mistress...

We're all human and experience emotion

Guest — Thu, 24 May 2007 08:53:39 -0400

We all experience the same feelings of abandonment, neglect, insecurity, self belief, etc etc, whether we're men or women. And with more women initiating divorce these days, perhaps they need to make a sequel to the movie First Wives Club from the man's perspective!

When Marriage Breaks, Men Suffer Higher Rates of Depression

Eve Miller — Wed, 23 May 2007 15:15:55 -0400

We’ve heard that when men fall in love, they fall harder than women, and that males are generally happier being married than females.

However, a new study out of Canada finds that men who had divorced or separated were six times more likely to report an episode of depression than men who remained married. Also, the rate of depression for men surpasses the rate for women. In fact, men were three and a half times more likely to have been depressed than women who were still in relationships.

Perhaps, but what the statistics don’t say is which sex initiated the breakup among these respondents. If it was split 50/50, the numbers are telling. Personally, I’ve seen both reactions, that of deep depression more devastating than the wife’s, and the reverse situation from the same man.

I was a close observer of a highly masculine, very handsome, charismatic charmer who was thrilled to finally separate from his wife to be with his longtime mistress full-time. Unfaithful, (that’s what I call him), was married to her for over a decade, had two children with her but was never “in love” with her, he said, and later grew to dislike her intensely. He couldn’t stand to be with his wife any longer, but I never knew for sure if his then-girlfriend had also pressured him to leave.

Unfaithful and mistress were married immediately. They were both deeply in love and had been for years. And truth be told, she was more suited to him than wife No. 1. Frankly, I thought his second marriage would last, but she walked out on him after 15 years.

He was angry and broken-hearted. A six-foot tall wounded bird so deeply depressed, he confessed to me he considered suicide until he started taking antidepressants and running around looking for women and sex again after a month or two.

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men and divorce depression

We're all human and experience emotion

When Marriage Breaks, Men Suffer Higher Rates of Depression