When I decided to file paperwork for my divorce, I didn't have a lot of experience with lawyers. My therapist recommended someone and I met with him on my own. I can still remember walking into his sterile office six years ago wondering what I should be looking for in a divorce attorney.

He was a nondescript, average-looking, middle-aged man who was very professional. He asked me to tell him my story and after listening, asked what I would like to do. My mouth went dry as I mumbled, "I'd like to file for divorce."

He could tell I was not familiar with divorce proceedings and gave me some paperwork to read and sent me on my way with his business card. I read through what he gave me and also spoke to him about price. His fee was reasonable and I felt comfortable enough letting him handle this situation. Overall, he did a very professional job.

The only time he ever disagreed with me is when I declined any alimony. He felt this was a big mistake, but I decided I didn't want any support from my ex. I wanted to be free of anything connected to him — including his money.

Trusting legal help can be difficult. I feel very fortunate to have worked with someone who didn't take advantage of my naivety, but instead acknowledged it and helped educate me on the process. I would highly recommend using a referral from someone you trust.